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100 Acts of Male Goodness
Good Is Good
What Is a “Good” Man?
This is a project not a destination, for us collectively and for each one of us personally.
Sports
Carmelo
Tom Ley doesn’t care if Carmelo Anthony wins a championship. He just wants his time as a Knick to be fun to watch.
The Issues of Men’s Rights
Why I Advocate for Men’s Rights
Men deserve more voices talking for them, writes GirlWritesWhat, and that’s why she’s doing it.
Men as the Solution, Not the Problem
James Landrith salutes the men making an impact in sexual violence work and survivor advocacy programs.
Families
My 55-Year-Old Father in the Geriatric Ward
Her father is a different man now, but Jilly Boyd is still standing behind him.
Divorce
Scenes From a Divorce: The First Epiphany
Although his marriage didn’t work out, Steven Axelrod’s children washed away any lingering regret.
Media Men
The Men of ‘How I Met Your Mother’
When it comes to combining comedy and the diversity of masculinity, Maria Pawlowska writes, not many do it better than Marshall, Ted, and Barney.
Fear & Courage
Health, Psychology, & Addiction
The Magic Bullet
The pharmaceutical industry hopes to do for addiction what it did for depression. But does addiction demand a scientific solution?
Education and Boys
The Language of Mean
When kids don’t want to be nice to each other, they have their own euphemistic way of going about it. Here’s a guide.
The Presumption of Male Guilt
Accused on the Airwaves
Accusations are easy to make, but impossible to take to take back, as Shawn Peters painfully discovered.
Male Heartbreak
Love in the Age of the Internet: Drake’s ‘Take Care’ and the Modern Break-Up Album
Aditya Mahalingham-Dhingra thinks Drake is the voice of the modern, millennial relationship.
Our Sexual Vocabulary
Riding in PopPop’s Vulva
Joanna Schroeder teaches her sons about sex, and ponders the merit of words like “vajayjay” and “hoo-hah.”
#OccupyWallStreet
Occupy 2.0: What Next?
“No government can exist for a single moment without the cooperation of the people, willing or forced, and if people withdraw their cooperation in every detail, the government will come to a standstill.” —Gandhi
Men Are Funny
Men Over 50
A Daughter and a Daughter-In-Law
As a parent, you learn to let your kid become his or her own person. But what if, in rolling with the punches, you’re hit with something unexpected?
Men and Social Media
Trending Now: #Social Media and Being a #Man: Is it Good or Bad?
Maneet Bhatia wants us to use social media as an extension of ourselves, not a definition.
Women’s Obsession with Beauty
On Rape and Sexual Violence
Prison
Let’s Abolish Prison, Not Reform It
Does mass incarceration actually ensure “public safety” at all? Theresa Runstedtler and the prison abolition movement think not.
Conflict
Undocumented Iraq
When the Iraq war began, embedded photographers were allowed to take pictures of almost everything, but slowly, the military began telling photographers what they weren’t allowed to photograph. Hospitals, morgues, wounded soldiers, and IED scenes were all eventually declared off-limits.
Man to Man
Man-to-Man with Dr. Drew
Dr. Drew Pinsky on treating celebrities, his own struggles with codependency, and being confused with Dr. Phil.
Press
From Homeless to Heroes
How a group of homeless men and women are redefining what it means to be good and successful.
Gender and Sexuality
‘How Gay’ Has ‘Stay[ed] White’ for Over a Decade
Homosexuality isn’t just a white thing, Josh Friedberg writes, and it’s up to us to challenge the stereotypes that continue to misinform and generalize.
It’s Not Easy to Raise Your Son to Be a Feminist
Mothers can raise their daughters to be just like them, Gayle Goldin writes, but what about their sons?
Advice & Confessions
Overcoming Abuse and Becoming a Good Man
Scott Mclelland relives his agonizing tale of abuse and credits his damaging past as the catalyst for him becoming the good man he is today.
Dear John: I’m in Love with My Best Friend’s Girl
Do I tell my best friend that I’m in love with his girlfriend? Should I share my liberal beliefs with my conservative in-laws? How do I tell my wife I don’t like the music she listens to?
Sex & Relationships
Dating Advice From a Shaman: 5 Ways to Get Ready for New Love
Mikki Baloy Davis thinks you should open up and cut the cords.
Arts & Entertainment
The World Missed Out On ‘Shame’
Joanna Schroeder talks about Academy Award nominations gone awry and the complications of male “goodness” in films.
Blind Casting: A Black Man’s Take on the Bechdel Test
Christian Coleman takes a look at how black men are portrayed in some of the movies he’s watched recently.
Ethics & Values
The President Airs His Grievances
President Obama gave a great speech on Tuesday, Slade Sohmer writes, so let’s just leave it at that.
DadsGood
I See My Teenage Self in My Daughter, and That Scares the Crap Out of Me
J.R Reed discusses his less than fond memories of High School and how that affects his anxiety over raising a teenage daughter.
Livin’ at the Corner of Dad & Technology: The Influence of Music
What kind of influence does music hold over our lives? How about the lives of our children?
Penis Isn’t a Dirty Word
There is nothing shameful about our bodies, so why do we teach our children otherwise?
Editors’ Picks
Two Men, a Canoe, and Large Blue Bundles
After moving to a new neighborhood, S. Grady Barrett struggled to fit in, so his father took him camping and taught him how to survive.
Legalize Sex (and Everything Else)
The legalization of sex, drugs, and gambling would help remedy these industries by bringing them into the spotlight, Tom Matlack argues.
The Blessings of Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction shouldn’t necessarily send you running to the doctor for a Viagra prescription. Run-of-the-mill ED might just improve your sex life in the long run.
Men and Feminism
I Have Female Privilege
It’s a woman’s world, Rachel Goodchild writes, and they now have all the privilege.
What’s Good About Masculinity?
The “Good Man” Is a Response to the Myth of the “Bad Man”
Mark D. White responds to Tom Matlack’s Post “What Is a ‘Good’ Man?”
Weekend Fiction
Asperger’s: A Chronology, an excerpt from FATHERMUCKER
“Roland has invented a game. He pokes you in the eye with his index finger, Three Stooges’ style, and yells, ‘Boook!’” By Greg Olear
The Good Men Project
Onward to 2012: But First, a Look Back at the Top 12 stories of 2011
2.5 million visitors read over 2,500 stories and articles on The Good Men Project in 2011. Here is a handful of the most popular.
Male Lust
Is Male Lust Turning Us Inside Out?
Tom Matlack wonders what would happen if men were allowed to be open about their lust.
Business Ethics
#OccupyVCs?
Paul Kix explores how VCs made 100s of millions personally while destroying billions of dollars of working class pension money.
On Men and Spirituality
A Gay Man and the Church: Trying to Reconcile My Sexuality
Paul Leroux turns to spirituality to reconcile his sexuality.
Men at Home
100 Ways to Be a Good Father
I’m a crappy dad sometimes, but I hope that I’m always learning how to be a better father.
Vocalyze
“The best thing you can do for your child as far as political ideology goes is to teach him to be a fee thinker.”
This comment was from PM on the post “It’s Not Easy to Raise Your Child as a Feminist.”