Be careful what you think. It might annul your marriage.
An Italian couple has won the right to have their marriage annulled because of adultery—of the mind. The wife didn’t sleep with any other men, but she openly spoke about it with her husband before their marriage. According to the courts, that’s a big no-no:
The decision handed down recently by Italy’s Court of Cassation upheld a lower court’s decision and also a decision made at the Catholic Church Ecclesiastical Court.
The court’s ruling said that the wife failed to comply with one of the principles of marriage and the court considered her spoken desires for an open marriage as good as committing adultery, a court official said.
The husband, who willingly married despite knowledge of wife’s feelings, will not be required to pay alimony.
It’s only a matter of time before psychics are brought in to help solve annulment cases.
I’ve only discovered this website recently, but I’ve read several articles, and the comments have been very positive thus far, except for here. Maybe the sheer idea of a cheating wife sets off alarms in people’s brains, maybe it’s just the presence of trolls, (espiecially Mohammed, classic troll) I would hope you would be more understanding, (not that attacking the husband necessarily helps either). My hypothesis is that he assumed that if only they got married that would annihilate all their problems, including her sexual desire for multiple partners and probably a hundred other things. Uh….no, doesn’t work that way.… Read more »
If you read the Guardian article, it sounds like Italians often make up excuses to get an annulment from the church rather than go through the slow and expensive courts for divorce.
Also, it is most likely that he was okay with her fantasizing about other men, but after they were married she divulged her real attitude regarding open marriage.
If that was the case, then he was smart to cut his losses.
PS: Eddy: you are a bigot FU too.
Don’t ask, don’t tell.
38yo married male here…. Why does everyone confuse sex with love? And what happend to the thought of a spouse supporting each other “through good times and bad”? Here she trusted him enough to share her most intimte thoughts. She thought that the marriage meant that they would keep no secrets from each other. And how was she repaid for it??? I guess it’s better to keep things to yourself, and not trust the one you love and care for, and instead let resentment fester into something that may explode down the road. She did nothing wrong in my book.… Read more »
Ah, Mohammed. Hoping the light of love socks you square in that cold cold heart.
stupid is as stupid does!
oh Pema,
Don’t wish ill to some poor woman who has to live thru the company of Mohammed!!
I wouldn’t wish him on my worst enemy! Male or Female frankly. The man is way to insecure to be with any human being.
Its best to just leave him alone or wish him some psychiatric help!! he needs it.
I wonder how long they were married? It could be that the husband had a woman on the side and this was an easy way for him to wriggle out of his marriage. No man is trying to divorce a woman he truly loves!
The wife was dumb. NEVER, ever introduce any competition into your relationship people. Your significant other should always feel secure. Keep your lusty thoughts for others to your damn self.
you are right…some men are way too insecure!
they have some screwed up ideas of what women should be. I squarely blame their sexually screwed up mothers!
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Under Sharia law we would have to pretend to throw rocks at her until she was “dead.”
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That’s a very cruel and vile thing to say!
Why pretend?
Under my law…I would have you castrated…slice by slice…and hung up in a prison splayed.
hey…we can all think can’t we!!
lol
How is it that my cheating, w*ore ex-wife of 27 years, who had an affair with my best friend since 3rd grade’s brother, get’s 1/2 of everything I own?
Perhaps I should move to Italy, where life is based on morals, ethics and joie de vivre, rather than this utterly screwed up place them Tea Bagger, oops, Partiers, call “America”.
If I move to Italy, do I get 1/2 of what she owns?
Signed,
Give me a F-ing break!
Gloria Allred is the root of all evil. Her first “boyfriend” did her then saw her during the light and ran screaming; ever since she is trying to get back at him through persecuting all men. Love, and adultery, is ALL in the mind, everything else is just mechanics.
Hi Agree totally with Jackie. I am a happily married man, married to the same woman for 40 years. I often tell my wife about my fantasies with other women – she just laughs or even encourages me for she is confident that those are just fantasies and that nothing really will come off off them. I am not that attractive. Italian men are very possessive and think they are macho instead they are mostly only fops. I agree the ex-husband is very insecure and immature, he is not confident of retaining his wife’s affections. Everyone has fantasies, and that’s… Read more »
I agree with both you and Jackie. There is a difference between having fantasies and acting on those fantasies.
Eddy,
Thanks for being so open-minded. I did your wife last night.
And she was gross.
Dude…the only suggestion I would have for you is to change attitude towards women…or you will remain pathetic loser for the rest of your life!!
Most women don’t like people like you!! In fact, most people don’t like people like you!
Please learn how to be a human being…before you can be respected. What did your mother teach you anyway!? To insult women. She must not have been a good mother!
Hey Eddy—FU
Where do you get off insulting Italians?
You probably (in your little self-satisfied way) think of yourself as “progressive”. But, you’re just a bigot.
I’ll bet the only reason you feel so confident of retaining your wife’s affections is that she’s a dog. I’ll also bet that she stepped out on you a few times in your 40 years because you have a little penis.
(She probably did an Italian).
Good for him. Better to get rid of her now than after establishing a life with her just to find out later that she has a roving eye. He’s not mean and insecure, Jackie, he’s prudent. It would be mean and disrespectful of HER to cheat on him. If she fancies other men then she has no business getting married.
your defense of the husband would make more sense if he hadn’t known about the fantasies and yet married her anyway.. if anyone is foolish, it may be her for marrying him as she had to know he wouldn’t support her desire for an open marriage. it was a marriage that should never have taken place.
Happy must live in a very misogynistic world where women are not allowed to think.
So Happy…tell us what really makes you really happy…obviously not women..’cause gosh darn it…they can all think !!
Hello Ryan,
Ouch!!!!!!!! The ex-husband is very insecure and immature. The country laughed at Jimmy Carter when he said that he lusted for other women but did not cheat on his wife. It is sad that the husband was so mean. I hope the ex-wife can move on and find a new love who will truly appreciate her fantasies.
I hope she moves on to someone who make her forcibly participate in his BDSM fantasies involving severe pain whilst watching glam rock. Then she can fantasize about other men all she wants while desperately trying to remember her “safe” word. She asked him for an open marriage, which you cretins should know means she wanted to act upon her thoughts. The safe word is “banana”.
don’t look now but “insecurity” is showing!! lol
its ok to have a name like that…but do you have to live up to it!! lol
women must really hate you for you to even contemplate hurting them in a public comment box. again…lmao!!