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The conversation no one else is having.


“The Good Men Project is a glimpse of what enlightened masculinity might look like in the 21st century,” the press raved when we launched. We had set out to start an international conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. And with over 5 million visitors coming to join in every month, it looks as if we’ve done exactly that.

The Good Men Project was founded by Tom Matlack in 2009. Tom set out to collect men’s stories  about the defining moments in men’s lives. What he discovered was that the connected idea between all the stories of the men that Tom talked to was that there was a moment when each man “woke up, looked in the mirror and said ‘I thought I knew what it meant to be a man. I thought I knew what it meant to be good. And I realize that I don’t know either.'”

These are the types of stories about men that “change the writer and change the reader.” The stories became a book, a film, a series of events, and then this website, where we are creating a space for a much-needed cultural conversation about manhood. Over the years, The Good Men Project has grown into a diverse, multi-faceted media company and an idea-based social platform.

The Good Men Project is a diverse community of 21st century thought leaders who are actively participating in a conversation about the way men’s roles are changing in modern life—and the way those changes affect everyone. We explore the world of men and manhood in a way that no media company ever has, tackling the issues and questions that are most relevant to men’s lives. We write about fatherhood, family, sex, ethics, war, gender, politics, sports, pornography, and aging. We shy away from nothing. Our content reflects the multidimensionality of men — we are alternatively funny and serious, provocative and thoughtful, earnest and light-hearted. We search far and wide for new stories and new voices from “the front lines of modern manhood.” And we do it without moralizing and without caricaturizing our audience; we let guys be guys, but we do it while challenging confining cultural notions of what a “real man” must be.

Guys today are neither the mindless, sex-obsessed buffoons nor the stoic automatons our culture so often makes them out to be. Our community is smart, compassionate, curious, and open-minded; they strive to be good fathers and husbands, citizens and friends, to lead by example at home and in the workplace, and to understand their role in a changing world. The Good Men Project is a place where that happens. We’re glad to have you along for the ride.

One question that comes up quite often is whether we endorse every person or idea on The Good Men Project as being good.

The answer is no.

We can’t know that. Can anybody? The question of what is good opens the door to huge philosophical implications. Where does goodness start and where does it end? Who is the judge of what is good?

There are aspects of goodness that we feel are universal, and there values that our editorial team has agreed upon: We are working toward the goal of helping end oppression in all forms, including homophobia, racism and sexism. Those are our fundamental tenets. But as with any professional relationship, there is much we cannot know about our contributors’ private lives, and in no way could we ever endorse any contributor as good, nor would we want to.

The best we can do is look for content that helps break down the oppressive gender binary and offers new ways of thinking about fatherhood, family, relationships, work/life balance, race, the criminal justice system and more. We hope to be a place where readers can go from article to article and say, “Hey, I’ve never thought of it that way…” and learn and grow with a community of people of all genders, all races, and all sexual orientations who know that this is the time to be talking about what it means to be a man in the 21st Century. This is the time to take the definition of “manhood” and free it from an oppressive and outdated model.

And while we wish we could say that all of the people—or even that all of these concepts—contained within our site are good, we are all humans here and humans are complicated. The only thing we can say for sure is that we are in pursuit of helping to make the world better, and we hope you’ll join us.



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Tom Matlack

Publisher, The Good Men Project / CEO, Good Men Media, Inc.
Lisa Hickey
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Advisor, Board Member, Good Men Media, Inc.
Ken Goldstein
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Executive Editors

Kathryn DeHoyos
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Tom Fiffer
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Wilhelm Cortez
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Managing Editor, Writer Development

Dixie Gillaspie
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Lead Editors

Heather Gray
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Rob Watson
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Kimanzi Constable
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Shawn Henfling
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Lead Editor, Special Projects

Mark Greene
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Dads & Families

Rob Watson, Lead Editor
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Brian Gawlak, Editor
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Doyin Richards, Senior Editor
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Lisa Duggan, Editor
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Ethics & Values
Thomas Fiffer, Executive Editor
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Matt Rozsa, Editor
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Marriage & Commitment

Heather Gray, Lead Editor
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Steven Lake, Editor
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Wai Sallas, Senior Editor
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Shiney Sparks, Editor
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David Packman, Editor
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Justin Ricklefs, Editor
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Adam Crawford, Editor
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Social Justice

Wilhelm Cortez, Executive Editor
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Erin Kelly, Editor
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Dixie Gillaspie, Managing Editor
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Kimanzi Constable, Lead Editor
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Dale Vaughn, Editor, Leadership
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David Shechtman, Editor, Organizational Business
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Love, Sex & Relationships

Kimanzi Constable, Lead Editor
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Hillary Lauren
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Gender & Sexuality

JJ Vincent, Editor
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Arts & Entertainment

Jay Snook, Editor
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John K. Anderson, Editor
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International Politics

David Shechtman, Editor
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Raising Boys

Marie Roker-Jones, Senior Editor
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Aleasa Word, Editor
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Charlie Bondhus
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All Things Geek
Alex Yarde
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Health & Wellness

Ted McDonald, Editor
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Lauren Lobley, Editor
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Matthew Salesses
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Editors at Large

Lori Ann Lothian
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Jeremy McKeen
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Producer of Premium Membership Hangouts
Dr. Vibe
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Staff Illustrator
Katherine Sandoz
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Tech Support
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Media Partnerships
Joanna Schroeder
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Special thanks to Stephen Sheffield photography for images that are part of The Good Men Project Brand


Some of Our Most Popular Stories Of All Time:

I Have a Dream: That People Will View a Picture Like This and Not Think It’s a Big Deal by Doyin Richards

Five Important Things Women Don’t Know About Men Noah Brand

31 Reasons Why Men Don’t Cheat by The Editors

The Lack of Gentle Platonic Touch in Men’s Lives is a Killer  by Mark Greene

Raising Boys, Advice for Moms by Tom Matlack

Dear Daughter, I Hope You Have Awesome Sex by Ferrett Steinmetz

The Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality Alyssa Royce

Mostly Straight, Most of the Time by Ritch Savin-Williams

Confronting Life by Aaron Gouveia

Sir, Can You Help Me With This? by Tom Forrister

Why I Don’t Want to Talk About Race by Steve Locke

Why Women Aren’t Crazy by Yashar Ali

The Best Gay Books of All Time, Chosen by the Best LGBT Writers Edited by Benoit Lewis

The Healthy Sex Talk: Teaching Kids Consent Ages 1-21 Joanna Schroeder, Alyssa Royce, Julie Gillis and Jamie Utt

25 Failsafe* Rules for Dads Raising Daughters Marcus Williams and Joanna Schroeder

I Blow-dry My Son’s Hair by Todd Mauldin



The Good Men Project on the air and in the news:

Publisher Lisa Hickey talks about what it means to be a good man on 89.5 FM in Chicago.

Former editor Benoit Denizet-Lewis talks about The Good Men Project, and our special feature on good politicians, on WCCO in Minneapolis.

The Chicago Tribune profiles Tom Matlack and The Good Men Project.

On the day of our launch, Mediaite had this to say.

The New York Observer profiles us in a feature about the new trend of thoughtful men’s magazines.

Ms. Magazine loves us.

The Good Men Project Speakers Bureau: Our top Management Team, Editors, Authors and Contributors are available for Speaking Engagements and interviews with print, radio and television media at any time. We also have dedicated media partnerships and content sharing arrangements. Please co-ordinate through [email protected]

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