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The conversation no one else is having.


“The Good Men Project is a glimpse of what enlightened masculinity might look like in the 21st century,” the press raved when we launched. We had set out to start an international conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. And with over 5 million visitors coming to join in every month, it looks as if we’ve done exactly that.The Good Men Project was founded by Tom Matlack in 2009. Tom set out to collect men’s stories  about the defining moments in men’s lives. What he discovered was that the connected idea between all the stories of the men that Tom talked to was that there was a moment when each man “woke up, looked in the mirror and said ‘I thought I knew what it meant to be a man. I thought I knew what it meant to be good. And I realize that I don’t know either.'”These are the types of stories about men that “change the writer and change the reader.”

The stories became a book, a film, a series of events, and then this website, where we are creating a space for a much-needed cultural conversation about manhood. Over the years, The Good Men Project has grown into a diverse, multi-faceted media company and an idea-based social platform.The Good Men Project is a diverse community of 21st century thought leaders who are actively participating in a conversation about the way men’s roles are changing in modern life—and the way those changes affect everyone.

We explore the world of men and manhood in a way that no media company ever has, tackling the issues and questions that are most relevant to men’s lives. We write about fatherhood, family, sex, ethics, war, gender, politics, sports, pornography, and aging. We shy away from nothing. Our content reflects the multidimensionality of men — we are alternatively funny and serious, provocative and thoughtful, earnest and light-hearted. We search far and wide for new stories and new voices from “the front lines of modern manhood.” And we do it without moralizing and without caricaturizing our audience; we let guys be guys, but we do it while challenging confining cultural notions of what a “real man” must be.

Guys today are neither the mindless, sex-obsessed buffoons nor the stoic automatons our culture so often makes them out to be. Our community is smart, compassionate, curious, and open-minded; they strive to be good fathers and husbands, citizens and friends, to lead by example at home and in the workplace, and to understand their role in a changing world. The Good Men Project is a place where that happens. We’re glad to have you along for the ride.


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Founder, Tom Matlack

Publisher, The Good Men Project / CEO, Good Men Media, Inc. Lisa Hickey [email protected]

Advisor, Board Member, Good Men Media, Inc. Ken Goldstein [email protected]

Executive Editors Wilhelm Cortez [email protected], Dixie Gillaspie [email protected], Rob Watson [email protected]

Lead Editors Heather Gray [email protected], Kimanzi Constable [email protected], Kent Sanders [email protected], Barb Abramson [email protected], Arianna Jeret [email protected], Jenny Kanevsky [email protected]

Lead Editor, Special Projects Mark Greene [email protected]

Dads & Families Rob Watson, Executive Editor [email protected], Chandler Crawford [email protected]Lisa Duggan, Editor [email protected]

Ethics & Values Thomas Fiffer, Senior Editor [email protected]Matt Rozsa, Editor [email protected]

Marriage & Commitment Heather Gray, Lead Editor [email protected]Steven Lake, Editor [email protected]

Social Justice Wilhelm Cortez, Executive Editor [email protected]Erin Kelly, Editor [email protected]

Business Dixie Gillaspie, Executive Editor [email protected], Kimanzi Constable, Lead Editor [email protected], Dale Vaughn, Senior Editor [email protected], David Shechtman, Editor [email protected]

Love, Sex & Relationships Kimanzi Constable, Lead Editor [email protected] Hilary Lauren [email protected]

Gender & Sexuality JJ Vincent, Editor [email protected], Mia Ranard [email protected]

Arts & Entertainment Jay Snook, Editor [email protected]
Kent Sanders, Editor [email protected]

For the Love of Men Barbara Abramson, Lead Editor [email protected]

Politics John K. Anderson, Editor [email protected]

Raising Boys Marie Roker-Jones, Senior Editor [email protected]Aleasa Word, Editor[email protected]

Poetry Charlie Bondhus [email protected]

All Things Geek Alex Yarde [email protected]

Divorce Jenny Kanevsky [email protected]Arianna Jeret [email protected]

Education Jessicah Lahitou, Editor [email protected]

Health & Wellness Ted McDonald, Editor [email protected]Lauren Lobley, Editor [email protected]

Sports Wai Sallas, Senior Editor [email protected]Shiney Sparks, Editor [email protected], David Packman, Editor [email protected], Adam Crawford, Editor [email protected]

Editor at Large Jeremy McKeen [email protected]

Producer of Membership Hangouts Dr. Vibe [email protected]

Tech Support Jon Brown, 9seeds

Media Partnerships and Advertising Inquiries Lisa Hickey, Publisher [email protected]

Special thanks to Stephen Sheffield photography for images that are part of The Good Men Project Brand


Some of Our Most Popular Stories Of All Time:

I Have a Dream: That People Will View a Picture Like This and Not Think It’s a Big Deal by Doyin RichardsFive Important Things Women Don’t Know About Men Noah Brand31 Reasons Why Men Don’t Cheat by The EditorsThe Lack of Gentle Platonic Touch in Men’s Lives is a Killer  by Mark GreeneRaising Boys, Advice for Moms by Tom MatlackDear Daughter, I Hope You Have Awesome Sex by Ferrett SteinmetzThe Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality Alyssa RoyceMostly Straight, Most of the Time by Ritch Savin-WilliamsConfronting Life by Aaron GouveiaSir, Can You Help Me With This? by Tom ForristerWhy I Don’t Want to Talk About Race by Steve LockeWhy Women Aren’t Crazy by Yashar AliThe Best Gay Books of All Time, Chosen by the Best LGBT Writers Edited by Benoit LewisThe Healthy Sex Talk: Teaching Kids Consent Ages 1-21 Joanna Schroeder, Alyssa Royce, Julie Gillis and Jamie Utt25 Failsafe* Rules for Dads Raising Daughters Marcus Williams and Joanna SchroederI Blow-dry My Son’s Hair by Todd Mauldin


The Good Men Project on the air and in the news:

Publisher Lisa Hickey talks about what it means to be a good man on 89.5 FM in Chicago.Former editor Benoit Denizet-Lewis talks about The Good Men Project, and our special feature on good politicians, on WCCO in Minneapolis.The Chicago Tribune profiles Tom Matlack and The Good Men Project.On the day of our launch, Mediaite had this to say.The New York Observer profiles us in a feature about the new trend of thoughtful men’s magazines.Ms. Magazine loves us.The Good Men Project Speakers Bureau: Our top Management Team, Editors, Authors and Contributors are available for Speaking Engagements and interviews with print, radio and television media at any time. We also have dedicated media partnerships and content sharing arrangements. Please co-ordinate through [email protected]Download our media kit here.♦◊♦

  • For editorial and content-sharing inquiries, or to advertise, contact Lisa Hickey at [email protected] Click here for our media kit.
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  • Want to be an intern at The Good Men Project? Email Lisa Hickey here.
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