Matthew Salesses on the dilemma of how to talk about adoption without hurting loved ones.
Matthew Salesses contributed to the very first day of The Good Men Project. He writes the "Love, Recorded" column about his wife, baby, and cats. He has written for The New York Times, NPR, the Center for Asian American Media, Salon, The Rumpus, and others. He is the author, most recently, of Different Racisms: On Stereotypes, the Individual, and Asian American masculinity. See more at his eponymous website. Contact him via email or @salesses.
“What the cops want, on some level, is to believe their version of the world, that black people are dangerous.” By Matthew Salesses
In this installment of “Love, Recorded,” how do we give our children advice that is both enough and not so much that it stifles them. Look to the cookie?
In the latest installment of “Love, Recorded,” a car named Kiki gets in an accident. But what really hurts is the crash between the present and the past.
“My brother visits from Korea with his girlfriend, S. If they marry, I will not be the only adoptee in the family to return to Korea and marry a Korean woman.” By Matthew Salesses
“Adoptee voices must be included in conversations about adoption. Adoptee voices must be valued.” By Matthew Salesses
In this installment of “Love, Recorded,” the baby falls in love, unrequited, and Matt ponders the socialization element of the holidays.
Adoption is a complicated thing, but Matthew Salesses wants to be sure to thank his adoptive parents for being there when he needed them.
In this installment of “Love, Recorded,” Matt takes his daughter to a Halloween party and wonders: Is Halloween a White People Holiday?
Should an author write characters of a different race than his own? Is that exploitation? Appropriation? Race denial? Or is it the author’s right? A conversation with Bill Cheng and Christine Lee Zilka on writing outside one’s race.
Sometimes facing your child’s issues means facing your own issues. In this installment of “Love, Recorded,” Matt Salesses breaks down over sensory problems he didn’t know he had.
“T. seemed to me an entirely wholesome child, as if he could never have survived public school. Perhaps that is how I set myself apart from him. Perhaps I was trying to scare him.” An excerpt from Daddy Cool.
A story of one man’s desperate decision to break his vows and maybe save his marriage.
Dan Mahle would rather fail miserably than be stuck in the choke-hold of fear and shame.
The former leader of renowned ex-gay ministry, Love in Action, answers the question, “What were you thinking?”
What is the impact of domestic violence?
Dan Szczesny explores how change comes long before the child is born.
Curtis Cook still wants to be a comic, but now more than ever he wants to be a different man than so many of the male comics who came before him.
One idea she’d never entertained showed Hilary Lauren how “real love” works — and kept her from sabotaging another relationship.
Because every holiday dinner needs help.
He’s shaken things up on issues like homelessness, crime, sexuality, and reproduction — but isn’t he really just doing what Jesus would do?
Anthony Rios builds from loss and strength to overcome his early start on the streets.
Jeff Sparr is a man on an audacious mission — a mission to make mental illness cool to support.
From supporting her just-out-of-the-closet son, to a group hug with a roomful of self-doubting teens, one mother’s quest to ease the pain of being different.
Mike Kasdan takes a look the iconic movie bad guys we love to laugh at, from Shooter McGavin to Principal Rooney to Mr. Pink.
Captain Chelsey Sullenberger is Breaking Barriers: From the United States Air Force to the Miracle on the Hudson to Making our Future Safer.
You think the painting might be worth millions, but it’s marked for $50 at a garage sale being held for a very sick little girl.
There are some things worse than death and they can be overcome simply by thinking about… death.
Nick Pavlidis reflects on his marriage and calls out three crucial truths about being married that any newlywed should realize sooner than later.
Joanna Schroeder explains how the selfies parents take today can affect their child’s future (in a good way!).