How To Be Less Awkward

“Be yourself” and “Just relax” are useless advice for awkward people. Instead, here’s some clear, simple guidelines.

Sex and Snuff: What Dying Twice Taught Me About Eroticized Death

Olivia Davis has done two modeling gigs involving her pretending to be dead. One was beautiful, one was ugly.

Five Things I Didn’t Know About My Body

They say female sexuality is mysterious. Olivia Davis explores some things about female sexuality and anatomy that even she didn’t know.

You’re Never Not What You Are

Young self-identified masters and dominants often have to fight for their identities BDSM spaces. Olivia Davis looks at why that’s wrong. In some ways, BDSM is a subculture of title and tradition. The rigid backbone of many kink organizations is Leather—regimented, highly organized Leather. Dating back to WWII vets desperately seeking military structure in their […]

When Chauvinism Ruled My Life

Olivia Davis discusses her year long brush with modern chauvinism in the form of a boy she liked.

In Defense of Demisexuality

Obviously, I am obsessed with sex and the politics of sex. I spend large chunks of my day staring at arguments about sex, kink, and gender. Equally immoderate chunks of my night are spent writing about those things. Sometimes, I even have sex. I think it’s serious business. But I have a dark, secret heart […]

Fifty Shades of Grey is Unintelligible as a Novel

Warning: This is not a post about gender, sex, or towering rage. It’s basically a piece of literary criticism. Also, some spoilers follow. So, as Charles creepily informed you, we’ve been reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Presently, we’re actually a bit of the way into sequel Fifty Shades Darker. Once we finish the trilogy, we’re going to […]

A Farewell

Dear Tumblr, We’re leaving you. We’re going to brighter, bigger pastures, that have better interfaces, commenting systems that make any goddamn sense, and fewer .gif walls. We’re leaving you. For wordpress. Seriously, though. To our shock, delight, and moderate trepidation, Gen!Der!Fight! has been picked up by the Good Men Project, so the whole blog is […]

Noble Hierarch is Not a Slut

As big nerds, Charles and I like to do nerdy things. Recently, we’ve managed to infiltrate a dear college friend’s weekly Magic: The Gathering club. This is super good news! I’m the only woman, but I’ve come to expect that. We have a lot of fun, though, so the strangenesses are pretty much excusable. There’s just one […]

P!nk: Lady Warrior, Femmephobe

Femmephobia is a trouble that I look on with no small amount of sympathy. In this lovely article from No Seriously, What AboutTeh Menz? Ozy Frantz discusses how, when zie was in high school, zie was a “Cool Chick.” Zie mocked other girls for their stereotypically feminine presentation and behavior and “adopt[ed] male gender norms […]

Don’t Get Raped, Not Don’t Rape

This is a response to Charles’s post on the same subject. I disagree with him on a fair number of points, so I’m going to talk here. You should probably read his post before you read mine. I agree, absolutely, that media and culture teach us not to rape. I think that they teach us not […]

Editor’s Note: There are points in this argument that Your Other Humble Editor, Rust, disagrees with. Her response is here. A friend of my reposted this today (I presume it’s from here but I can’t find the original post) with the caption “apparently this is controversial?” And we had a good laugh because, seriously, the world […]

On “Fee-Fees”

It probably comes as no surprise that I really hate the term “fee-fees.” For those of you more fortunate than I, “fee-fees” is a disparaging term that SJ folks throw around. It means “feelings” and is usually used in the context of “I don’t care about your fee-fees,” or “oh no, your precious fee-fees!” or other statements […]

The Story of Us

On this day last year, Charles and I decided that we were going to give dating a try. Our relationship had, in the past couple of weeks between then and when we first met at a munch exploded hilariously and somewhat consumingly from people who took a shine to each other at a munch[1], to […]

A Milestone

Today, your Humble Editors received their very first frothingly indignant reblog! I’m not gonna shame ‘em by linking it directly and pointing out that it literally just reiterates the position we argue against with a lot of elongated, whiny words and caps (“FEEEEELLLLLIINNGGSS”), but I will quote my favorite poorly punctuated sentence: holy shit this […]

Why I Cringe When Someone Tells Me To “Educate Myself.”

Someone (you know who you are) showed me and Charles the pretty amazing meme Tumblr. I worry it makes us and this post irrelevant and sad, but we’re gonna soldier on. So, let’s do it. It’s time for Olivia to examine feminist and SJ discursive paradigms that are terrible and harmful! Woo. I hate “go do […]