“Be yourself” and “Just relax” are useless advice for awkward people. Instead, here’s some clear, simple guidelines.
Five Things I Didn’t Know About My Body
They say female sexuality is mysterious. Olivia Davis explores some things about female sexuality and anatomy that even she didn’t know.
When Chauvinism Ruled My Life
Olivia Davis discusses her year long brush with modern chauvinism in the form of a boy she liked.
In Defense of Demisexuality
Obviously, I am obsessed with sex and the politics of sex. I spend large chunks of my day staring at arguments about sex, kink, and gender. Equally immoderate chunks of my night are spent writing about those things. Sometimes, I even have sex. I think it’s serious business. But I have a dark, secret heart…
A Farewell
Dear Tumblr, We’re leaving you. We’re going to brighter, bigger pastures, that have better interfaces, commenting systems that make any goddamn sense, and fewer .gif walls. We’re leaving you. For wordpress. Seriously, though. To our shock, delight, and moderate trepidation, Gen!Der!Fight! has been picked up by the Good Men Project, so the whole blog is…
Noble Hierarch is Not a Slut
As big nerds, Charles and I like to do nerdy things. Recently, we’ve managed to infiltrate a dear college friend’s weekly Magic: The Gathering club. This is super good news! I’m the only woman, but I’ve come to expect that. We have a lot of fun, though, so the strangenesses are pretty much excusable. There’s just one…
P!nk: Lady Warrior, Femmephobe
Femmephobia is a trouble that I look on with no small amount of sympathy. In this lovely article from No Seriously, What AboutTeh Menz? Ozy Frantz discusses how, when zie was in high school, zie was a “Cool Chick.” Zie mocked other girls for their stereotypically feminine presentation and behavior and “adopt[ed] male gender norms…
Don’t Get Raped, Not Don’t Rape
This is a response to Charles’s post on the same subject. I disagree with him on a fair number of points, so I’m going to talk here. You should probably read his post before you read mine. I agree, absolutely, that media and culture teach us not to rape. I think that they teach us not…
Editor’s Note: There are points in this argument that Your Other Humble Editor, Rust, disagrees with. Her response is here. A friend of my reposted this today (I presume it’s from here but I can’t find the original post) with the caption “apparently this is controversial?” And we had a good laugh because, seriously, the world…
https://goodmenproject.com/gender-fight/editors-note-there-are-points-in-this-argument/
On “Fee-Fees”
It probably comes as no surprise that I really hate the term “fee-fees.” For those of you more fortunate than I, “fee-fees” is a disparaging term that SJ folks throw around. It means “feelings” and is usually used in the context of “I don’t care about your fee-fees,” or “oh no, your precious fee-fees!” or other statements…
A Milestone
Today, your Humble Editors received their very first frothingly indignant reblog! I’m not gonna shame ‘em by linking it directly and pointing out that it literally just reiterates the position we argue against with a lot of elongated, whiny words and caps (“FEEEEELLLLLIINNGGSS”), but I will quote my favorite poorly punctuated sentence: holy shit this…
Why I Cringe When Someone Tells Me To “Educate Myself.”
Someone (you know who you are) showed me and Charles the pretty amazing meme Tumblr. I worry it makes us and this post irrelevant and sad, but we’re gonna soldier on. So, let’s do it. It’s time for Olivia to examine feminist and SJ discursive paradigms that are terrible and harmful! Woo. I hate “go do…
Why This Blog Cannot and Will Not Discuss Race
1) Your Humble Editors are both white as fuck. So, actually, we’d love to believe that we live in the sort of perfect world where “talking about identity politics while not being a member of an oppressed group” wasn’t a crime. But we’re miles from there and we don’t even know the roads. It took me…
Sarcasm
I love sarcasm. Need to appear witty, urbane, and above-it-all? Sarcasm has your back. Need to indicate amused disdain for something? Call sarcasm! But sarcasm and I are having something of a falling-out right now. And when you love something, you should blog about it. That’s how the saying goes, right? Seriously, though, sarcasm is…
Look, Kitten, You’re Being a Sexist part 3
All right. We’re nearly through. This is part three of three of my response to this here Lawsonry article concerning male feminists and “fauxminism.” Parts one and two are here and here (respectively). This run-down goes through the original article’s arguments chronologically, so you might want to read the first two parts before jumping in here.…
Look, Kitten, You’re Being a Sexist part 2
Back for more? Me, too! This is Part two of a three part saga dismantling the arguments found in this Lawsonry post about what makes a male feminist a “fauxminist.” Part one is here. Consider reading it because the response follows Milanese’s points chronologically. He insists that feminism must make time for men and men’s issues. Hoo boy.…