About Vironika Tugaleva

Vironika Tugaleva is an author, relationship coach, and speaker. Vironika is a passionate advocate for authenticity, the power of love, and the capacity of every individual to change the world. Read more at www.vironika.org.

Confessions From a Former Psycho Bitch From Hell

February 5, 2013 by Vironika Tugaleva 19 Comments

A quest for perfection turned Vironika Tugaleva into an urban legend.

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Lies Women Tell One Another About Men and Love

January 26, 2013 by Vironika Tugaleva 51 Comments

Vironika Tugaleva thought she was showing her man how much she loved him by being the perfect Cosmo Girl. Instead, she almost lost him.

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Shame Is Why We Fight

January 6, 2013 by Vironika Tugaleva 29 Comments

When a man can’t soothe his woman’s anxieties, he has failed to protect her. And in our culture of masculinity, failed men are expendable.

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My Gain, Your Loss: Hair Removal, Feminism, and Interdependence

December 28, 2012 by Vironika Tugaleva 41 Comments

An ideology that lacks compassion for half of humanity will not secure freedom for anyone.

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You Can’t Be Too Supportive

December 23, 2012 by Vironika Tugaleva Leave a Comment

Advice for handling children’s fears can be applied to us all.

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Shame and Violence: The Connecticut School Shooting and Hate

December 16, 2012 by Vironika Tugaleva 11 Comments

Tragedy comes from repressed shame, not from being too permissive with people.

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The Uniform of Gender

December 11, 2012 by Vironika Tugaleva 13 Comments

Gender is like a uniform you can’t take off.

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