About xoJane

xoJane.com, Jane Pratt's lifestyle site for women, is not about changing yourself to fit any mold of what others think you should be. It is about celebrating who you are. Like Sassy and Jane before it, xoJane.com is written by a group of women (and some token males) with strong voices, identities and opinions, many in direct opposition to each other, who are living what they are writing about.

Unpopular Opinion: For the Sake of Your Kids, Please Get a Divorce

Staying in an unhappy marriage does more damage to your kids than you realize… and I’m a living example.

I Drink, and My Boyfriend is Sober — Here’s How We Make It Work

WHY didn’t he drink? Had he NEVER drunk? Did he care that I drink?

5 Boys From My Past Who Shape How I Raise My Son

I feel incredibly lucky to have known, to still know, and/or to have obsessively loved each of these guys.

I Found My Biological Father Four Years After His Death

I searched for my biological father for years with no luck. Until that one phone call in 2008 changed it all.

My Family has Been Scattering My Dad’s Ashes all Around the World for Three Years

I hope that he knows, because he would just get the biggest kick out of it.

How My New Boyfriend’s Coma Brought Us Closer Than Ever

The next time I saw him he was gone, sedated into unconsciousness and hooked up to what felt like hundreds of blinking machines.

I’m A Harvard Graduate and My Partner Is A High School Dropout

Gina Florio found that this man was not only smart, but could teach her more than any man had before.

My Experience of “Awkward Gender Moments” Should Matter to People Other Than Me

The seemingly benign moments do in fact matter.

I’m a Guy Who Came Out as Bisexual and Now Can’t Date Anyone, Gay or Straight

In one of the proudest moments of my life, I changed my OkCupid profile from straight to bisexual.

Someone Tell Me That I’ll Live: On Murder, Media, and Being a Transgender Person in 2015

The article confirmed what I had already known for about a decade: I was doomed to a nasty, short, and miserable life.

Love of a Good Man: I Met My Boyfriend Through Online Gaming

“My roommates reminded me that he was, in effect, just a face and a voice on my laptop. That didn’t matter to me, and I didn’t listen.”

3 Obnoxious Things People Say to Adoptive Parents

Please. Just stop.

Even if the Salvation Army is Homophobic, Can We Please Leave the Bellringers Alone?

When I read about folks hassling the bell ringers over Salvation Army policies, it’s hard not to think of it as a form of bullying.

Why Fat-Shaming By Doctors Really, Really Matters

Between 210,000 and 440,000 people die every year as a result of preventable hospital mistakes. How many of those are casualties of weight bias?

My Gender Is An Everything Bagel

Sometimes people respond really well to me and we eat cookies together. Sometimes I also get verbally or physically assaulted.

‘Homeland’ Challenges Stereotypes About Hot Guys and Fat Women

Lesley Kinzel wants to talk about the sex between Peter Quinn and the fat girl on Homeland, and why it makes people uncomfortable.