About xoJane

xoJane.com, Jane Pratt's lifestyle site for women, is not about changing yourself to fit any mold of what others think you should be. It is about celebrating who you are. Like Sassy and Jane before it, xoJane.com is written by a group of women (and some token males) with strong voices, identities and opinions, many in direct opposition to each other, who are living what they are writing about.

Nice Going, SCOTUS: Emboldened Religious Organizations Now Asking For Permission To Discriminate Against LGBTQ Employees and Students

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The United States, where church and state are supposedly separate, is codifying discrimination on the part of Christian-owned and run entities, and thus far, we haven’t seen any high-profile denials of requests for religious exemptions.

My Son Wears Dresses And That’s Ok With Me

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“Maybe it’s a stage. And maybe it’s not. But either way, I don’t want him to ever feel like he wasn’t able to express himself because his parents didn’t support him.”

Not a Robot: Confessions of a Man Who Cries

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Allan Mott is a big crybaby. And he wouldn’t have it any other way.

I Fell In Love With A Junkie

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“He held my face to his and told me: ‘I have a history of heroin use, but I’m clean, and I’ve been tested. Are you sure you want to do this?’”

Leave Me Alone, I’m Not Lonely

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People seem to automatically assume that being alone is the same thing as being lonely. For Allan Mott, this simply isn’t true.

Why I’m Very Nice To My Ex-Husband’s New Wife

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Tara Ellison says that having a child in the divorce equation makes the obligation to keep things amicable stronger.

What I Learned From Working Graveyard Shift in a Sex Shop

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Allan Mott quickly discovered that the average middle-of-the-night customer at a sex shop isn’t a creep, but just a normal lonely guy.

Dealing With My Ex-Boyfriend’s Eating Disorder

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An anonymous contributor shares her story of dealing with her ex-boyfriend’s eating disorder, and demonstrates the importance of the need to address such diseases.

How To Not Be A Jerk To A Mixed Race Family

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Taryn Charles gives the five steps in avoiding racism when addressing mixed families.

The Mindless Co-Opting Of A Loaded Word: Am I Your Ni**a?

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A White male got called the N-word. By a White teenager. Is the dreaded word now a…brand?

How To Be Supportive If Your Guy Is Experiencing Sexual Issues

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Sex Therapist Vanessa Martin gives useful and loving advice for dealing with premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and other issues.

Top 5 Pieces of Advice For Having A Sex Life That Doesn’t Suck

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Ever wondered what a sex therapist REALLY thinks is the best advice? Vanessa Martin shares her inside scoop on initiation, rejection, and innovation.

Yet Another Teenage Boy Is Struggling With the Normalization of His Rape

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Rape has never been about seduction. It has always been and will always be about power.

I Married A Military Man

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Cary Carr understands that she made a big sacrifice when she married Ryan. He understands that, too.

We’re Here, We’re Trans, And We’re In Your Pop Culture

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Will 2014 be the the trans tipping point in pop culture?

Are Video Games About War Hurting The Emotional Development Of Boys And Men? (Maybe They Don’t Have to)

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Some video game trivialize war and violence but it doesn’t have to be this way.