Emotional Intelligence: The Importance of People Smarts

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About Hiren Gaglani

Hiren Gaglani is a Director at Headrush Outbound, a South Asia based outdoor experiential learning company. Headrush aims to impart training to variety of different ends, by merging the engagement level of the outdoors, with the science of assessments.

For its more rigorous training oriented clients, Headrush also offers Headrush Insights, its rigorous Outdoor Education modules.

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  1. I am really interested that the issue and subject of Emotional Intelligence has been raised – but there has been no dialogue or even an invitation to dialogue of what that means in being a Good Man.

    I’m always happy to see content coming in from a wider global perspective, no matter how glancing the association. I Joke about the middle aged spread around here, and how youth is missing in both how they see goodness and either aspire to what others say it is, or see it as wrong and want to change some wrong headed ways. I just wish there was more about “Homines Boni” which transcended boundaries and stereotypes – National and Age.

    Emotional intelligence – the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups.

    I do find it odd that there are supposedly three steps 1)Identify – 2)assess – 3)control and yet they are not linear with one following the other like some choo choo train. Different people can have different levels of knowledge and are able to identify but not able to or even interested in assessing or controlling. Some actually have the ability to control other people emotionally and there is no assessment or even identifying of emotions – you only have to look at the perpetrators of such things as Domestic Abuse, both male and female, to see the lack of assessment or identity but the control coming from learned experience and socialised norms.

    This piece on emotional intelligence is both insightful and sadly stereotypical. In one way it takes two well understood words “Emotion” and “Intelligence” joins them together to attempt to communicate a new idea – and everyone thinks because they are emotional and intelligent they get the subject and know all the answers.

    Understanding you own and others emotional and how they get laid out, used and channelled is important, no matter you level of understanding. Some study the subject and can deal with their own emotions and even treat others as emotional marionettes, pulling a few strings to get the emotional response that best serves. That could be cowing someone or having them explode.

    But that emotional Intelligence can also work in very different ways – some have little to no Overt understanding but they get it right because they just tune into others, are empathetic and even just like people and being with them.

    The one thing I do find of concern is how so many useful ideas and terms such as “Emotional Intelligence” end up being monopolised around a profit and loss model, or The American Dream Model.

    This newly crowned meme and idea will make you millions – and I will make millions by selling you the idea and getting you to buy the book – your hunger for sucess and climbing that social hierarchy based upon money will guarantee my success …. and what is most interesting is, if you lack emotional intelligence you will miss the irony of how I am using emotional intelligence against you to achieve my own aims bu getting you yo buy my books about Emotional Intelligence – which of course I label with such things as How To Succeed in.. . P^)

    How Does being a Good Man fit with The American Dream when for some the emotionally intelligent thing to do is set aside the success by money ideal and look to explore the undercurrents and how other successes can be judged both emotionally and even rationally. Some God Men spoke of Holding these truths to be self evident “.. that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”.

    The Word Cynic got it’s meaning changed mid 19th Century. The guys who signed off on “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness” were in many ways True Cynics – That life was best lived with some form of virtue, and worldly goods got in the way. Then the meaning of the word got changed and became about Distrusting Others Motives, Ambitions and even Displayed Emotions.

    It’s interesting to see how emotionally intelligent those guys with quills were and how they did not place profit and being financially rich at the top of any tree as a Self Evident Truth. When did pursuing happiness and being independent become measured by green paper – and how do good men safeguard against others being modern day cynics and using emotional intelligence in ways that might be good for the man but not for men?

    • Peter von Maidenberg says:

      “The one thing I do find of concern is how so many useful ideas and terms such as ‘Emotional Intelligence’ end up being monopolised around a profit and loss model, or The American Dream Model.”

      The question then is: How much of that happens because some marketing meatball is looking for a fresh angle – which is natural, and more important, their job – and how much of it happens because society feels unable/reluctant/guilty to engage with such issues unless they can be expressed materially?

      “I am really interested that the issue and subject of Emotional Intelligence has been raised – but there has been no dialogue or even an invitation to dialogue of what that means in being a Good Man.”

      Perhaps because EI is not considered substantive/real world/material enough to be worthy of men’s time and energy?

  2. Emotional intelligence does not exist other than as a genderpolitikally motivated scientific fraud.

    It was fabricated from the ground up to lend scientific-looking support to female supremacism. Accordingly, emotional intelligence is presented as an extremely important “makes you truly human” faculty at which, by design, women rock and men suck. That’s all there is to it.

  3. It’s interesting that people like BASTAI would deny the existence of emotional intelligence. I mean, there are other terms for this concept, like non-cognitive skills, social skills, people skills, soft skills, interpersonal skills. What do you call these? Are these too made up? And it has not been my experience that “women rock and men suck” at it. We run a summer camp (http://www.longacre.com/) and teach leadership to teenagers. Some of these teenagers are good with others, some less so. It’s just like athletics or art or math or anything else.

  4. I think ‘emotional intelligence’ is just some silly fad-notion that doesn’t really exist outside imagination.

  5. There are also many psychologists who argue that Emotional Intelligence (EI) doesn’t exist. However, I think this is an academic arguement as whilst they may not agree with the overall concept they do tend to agree with the existence of the constituents of EI such as self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and behavioural agility. Instead we need to focus on the impact of EI. Researchers from Henley Management College in the UK (Dulewicz & Higgs) found that EI contributes to 36% of the factors that determine success for leaders.

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