Those whose have a physicality, skin colour or gender that doesn’t match another’s safe and trusted blueprint, often tread a fine line. They have a choice to make. They can either adjust themselves to make another feel safe, or be themselves and deal with someone else’s fear stories about them. It could be something as…
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Dear Queer Youth: Happy Pride Month (An Open Letter from Your Future Self)
Jen O'Ryan imparts advice to this bold new generation of queer youth: Do not underestimate your potential to change the world.
Jen O’Ryan imparts advice to this bold new generation of queer youth: Do not underestimate your potential to change the world.
Men Are “Man Enough” To Handle Porn, Thanks
Alain de Botton may not be able to keep morality and porn in the same brain, but I sure can. I promised myself I wouldn’t get addicted. I assured myself that I stop any time I wanted to, that I was fully in control of my own actions. I was my own man and damn anyone…
Six Things I Learned from #LiberalTips2AvoidRape
Bless their little hearts, the right-ward leaning segment of America has taken it into its head that it can maybe shake that whole “soft on rape” problem by promoting anti-rape measures.
Are You Dating a Serial Killer? Psychology Today Thinks You Might Be.
Charles Emrich is here to help you come to grips with the Bateman-esque monster Psychology Today thinks you’ve fallen for. Sometimes you have to expose yourself to awful things to remind yourself that they exist, that evil exists. Past the darkness at the end of the streetlights, you can hear it. It’s out there in…
There’s No Insincerity In Irony
Charles Emrich defends irony from its detractors. Sincerely.
Five Things I Didn’t Know About My Body
They say female sexuality is mysterious. Olivia Davis explores some things about female sexuality and anatomy that even she didn’t know.
Why We Don’t Talk About Relationships.
Charles Emrich talks about what keeps us from talking and wonders why we don’t have more of it. (It being, obviously, syntactic ambiguity.) When we talk about gender and sex we spend a lot of time railing against them, they’ve got a lot going for them, too. And I don’t mean this in a lazy,…
When Chauvinism Ruled My Life
Olivia Davis discusses her year long brush with modern chauvinism in the form of a boy she liked.
In Defense of Demisexuality
Obviously, I am obsessed with sex and the politics of sex. I spend large chunks of my day staring at arguments about sex, kink, and gender. Equally immoderate chunks of my night are spent writing about those things. Sometimes, I even have sex. I think it’s serious business. But I have a dark, secret heart…
A Farewell
Dear Tumblr, We’re leaving you. We’re going to brighter, bigger pastures, that have better interfaces, commenting systems that make any goddamn sense, and fewer .gif walls. We’re leaving you. For wordpress. Seriously, though. To our shock, delight, and moderate trepidation, Gen!Der!Fight! has been picked up by the Good Men Project, so the whole blog is…
Noble Hierarch is Not a Slut
As big nerds, Charles and I like to do nerdy things. Recently, we’ve managed to infiltrate a dear college friend’s weekly Magic: The Gathering club. This is super good news! I’m the only woman, but I’ve come to expect that. We have a lot of fun, though, so the strangenesses are pretty much excusable. There’s just one…
P!nk: Lady Warrior, Femmephobe
Femmephobia is a trouble that I look on with no small amount of sympathy. In this lovely article from No Seriously, What AboutTeh Menz? Ozy Frantz discusses how, when zie was in high school, zie was a “Cool Chick.” Zie mocked other girls for their stereotypically feminine presentation and behavior and “adopt[ed] male gender norms…
Don’t Get Raped, Not Don’t Rape
This is a response to Charles’s post on the same subject. I disagree with him on a fair number of points, so I’m going to talk here. You should probably read his post before you read mine. I agree, absolutely, that media and culture teach us not to rape. I think that they teach us not…
Editor’s Note: There are points in this argument that Your Other Humble Editor, Rust, disagrees with. Her response is here. A friend of my reposted this today (I presume it’s from here but I can’t find the original post) with the caption “apparently this is controversial?” And we had a good laugh because, seriously, the world…
https://goodmenproject.com/gender-fight/editors-note-there-are-points-in-this-argument/
On “Fee-Fees”
It probably comes as no surprise that I really hate the term “fee-fees.” For those of you more fortunate than I, “fee-fees” is a disparaging term that SJ folks throw around. It means “feelings” and is usually used in the context of “I don’t care about your fee-fees,” or “oh no, your precious fee-fees!” or other statements…