Bless their little hearts, the right-ward leaning segment of America has taken it into its head that it can maybe shake that whole “soft on rape” problem by promoting anti-rape measures.
Alain de Botton may not be able to keep morality and porn in the same brain, but I sure can. I promised myself I wouldn’t get addicted. I assured myself that I stop any time I wanted to, that I was fully in control of my own actions. I was my own man and damn anyone [...]
Are You Dating a Serial Killer? Psychology Today Thinks You Might Be.
January 5, 2013 By 9 Comments
Charles Emrich is here to help you come to grips with the Bateman-esque monster Psychology Today thinks you’ve fallen for. Sometimes you have to expose yourself to awful things to remind yourself that they exist, that evil exists. Past the darkness at the end of the streetlights, you can hear it. It’s out there in [...]
There’s No Insincerity In Irony
December 3, 2012 By 22 Comments
Sex and Snuff: What Dying Twice Taught Me About Eroticized Death
October 22, 2012 By 35 Comments
Olivia Davis has done two modeling gigs involving her pretending to be dead. One was beautiful, one was ugly.
Five Things I Didn’t Know About My Body
September 17, 2012 By 33 Comments
They say female sexuality is mysterious. Olivia Davis explores some things about female sexuality and anatomy that even she didn’t know.
You’re Never Not What You Are
September 12, 2012 By 13 Comments
Young self-identified masters and dominants often have to fight for their identities BDSM spaces. Olivia Davis looks at why that’s wrong. In some ways, BDSM is a subculture of title and tradition. The rigid backbone of many kink organizations is Leather—regimented, highly organized Leather. Dating back to WWII vets desperately seeking military structure in their [...]
Why We Don’t Talk About Relationships.
September 5, 2012 By 7 Comments
Charles Emrich talks about what keeps us from talking and wonders why we don’t have more of it. (It being, obviously, syntactic ambiguity.) When we talk about gender and sex we spend a lot of time railing against them, they’ve got a lot going for them, too. And I don’t mean this in a lazy, [...]
When Chauvinism Ruled My Life
August 29, 2012 By 29 Comments
Olivia Davis discusses her year long brush with modern chauvinism in the form of a boy she liked.
Humping the Uncanny Valley: The Sexiness Gap in Men’s Sex Toys
August 23, 2012 By 43 Comments
Charles Emrich looks at the state of sex toys for men and plumbs some pretty distressing depths.
In Defense of Demisexuality
August 8, 2012 By 93 Comments
Obviously, I am obsessed with sex and the politics of sex. I spend large chunks of my day staring at arguments about sex, kink, and gender. Equally immoderate chunks of my night are spent writing about those things. Sometimes, I even have sex. I think it’s serious business. But I have a dark, secret heart [...]
Why “Unbirthing” Is Good For Everybody
August 6, 2012 By 3 Comments
Is it too late in the game to say “the internet changes things?” I know that’s very late-nineties-trend-piece of me, but it’s still going on and we’re still discovering what it means. Our dull, meaty monkey brains just move so much slower than the things we make with them. So, for now, I’m going to [...]
Fifty Shades of Grey is Unintelligible as a Novel
July 26, 2012 By 11 Comments
Warning: This is not a post about gender, sex, or towering rage. It’s basically a piece of literary criticism. Also, some spoilers follow. So, as Charles creepily informed you, we’ve been reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Presently, we’re actually a bit of the way into sequel Fifty Shades Darker. Once we finish the trilogy, we’re going to [...]
A Farewell
July 25, 2012 By Leave a Comment
Dear Tumblr, We’re leaving you. We’re going to brighter, bigger pastures, that have better interfaces, commenting systems that make any goddamn sense, and fewer .gif walls. We’re leaving you. For wordpress. Seriously, though. To our shock, delight, and moderate trepidation, Gen!Der!Fight! has been picked up by the Good Men Project, so the whole blog is [...]
Your Humble Editors are Reading Fifty Shades of Grey.
July 18, 2012 By Leave a Comment
P!nk: Lady Warrior, Femmephobe
July 7, 2012 By Leave a Comment
Femmephobia is a trouble that I look on with no small amount of sympathy. In this lovely article from No Seriously, What AboutTeh Menz? Ozy Frantz discusses how, when zie was in high school, zie was a “Cool Chick.” Zie mocked other girls for their stereotypically feminine presentation and behavior and “adopt[ed] male gender norms [...]
“It’s a woman’s job to make her man feel safe — a safe place that doesn’t expect him to do brave things just because he’s a man.”
This is a comment by Kat on the post “A Husband’s Job Is To Create Emotional Safety”.
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