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Dirty Little Secrets: Men, Trauma, and Mental Health

After his father was declared an enemy of the state in Uganda, his family fled. Now a successful consultant and men’s group leader, Kenny D’Cruz continues to heal from a life marked by persecution and mental illness.

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How We Can Improve Sex Ed for Boys

May 7, 2013 By Justin Cascio 18 Comments

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Justin Cascio talks to Elizabeth Schroeder, executive director of Answer, about why boys are tuning out in sex ed classes, and what they want to know most (but aren’t telling us).

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How Social Messages Can Make a Man a Bad Lover

April 6, 2013 By Brandy Engler 15 Comments

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What you believe may keep you from greater intimacy and satisfaction.

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Embracing Destruction

April 5, 2013 By Kevin Macku 7 Comments

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How do we learn to take decisive action?

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Mental Toughness Has Nothing to Do with Being a Hardass

March 27, 2013 By Wendy Lynne 8 Comments

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Learn the difference between mastery and suppression of your feelings.

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What Men Really Want

March 24, 2013 By Brandy Engler 33 Comments

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Men may think what they want is shockingly antisocial, but digging deeper reveals that what men truly want is actually quite ordinary and healthy.

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Are You Raising a Narcissist?

March 22, 2013 By Jason Bruce 8 Comments

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The cultural and technological trends that are making us even more self-absorbed.

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Guess Who Created Your Little Bully?

March 16, 2013 By Kenny Bodanis 5 Comments

Lisa Dixon-Wells, bullying prevention expert, on bullying behavior: how it starts, where it leads, how to stop it.

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So Your Kids Caught You Having Sex

March 15, 2013 By Matthew Treadwell 6 Comments

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What Matt Treadwell did when his six year old caught him and his wife by surprise.

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Be Nice, You Rancid Little Punk!

March 11, 2013 By Matthew Treadwell 1 Comment

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The impatient father of a young perfectionist finds “Do as I say, not as I do,” is easier said than done.

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Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence [Video]

March 3, 2013 By Jesse Kornbluth 2 Comments

Esther Perel TED talk

Book author and TED Talk speaker Esther Perel shares the secret to desire in a long-term relationship.

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The Difference Between Want and Need

February 25, 2013 By Russell Perkins 3 Comments

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Why should a man clean his toilet rather than play video games?

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Failure Is An Option

February 23, 2013 By Jeff Bogle 2 Comments

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Kids need to be able to fail in order to learn how to succeed.

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How One Person Can Improve a Relationship

February 22, 2013 By Dr. Carol B. Low 9 Comments

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Communication skills anyone can learn to put the love back into their relationship.

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Hyperarousal: Beyond Fight or Flight

February 20, 2013 By Justin Cascio 2 Comments

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In a crisis, your choices are limited, but it’s not as bad as you think.

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The Function of Adrenalin in Boys’ Rites of Passage

February 15, 2013 By Nick Clements 8 Comments

The young generation can be a threat to the status quo, or an energy source that needs direction, depending on how we meet the challenge.

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You Can’t Be Too Supportive

December 23, 2012 By Vironika Tugaleva Leave a Comment

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Advice for handling children’s fears can be applied to us all.

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Walmart Security Accuses Father of Kidnapping His Own Biracial Children

A Virginia man was accused of kidnapping his own children last week because, according to Walmart security, a white man with biracial children just didn’t “match up.”

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Boy Scouts Vote on Lifting Ban on Gay Members

A controversial debate within the Boy Scouts of America is coming to a head this week as 1,400 of its leaders vote on lifting the ban that doesn’t allow homosexuals or atheists into its ranks.

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Students Victimized for Perceived Sexual Orientation

A new study finds that students bullied because they are believed to be gay are much more likely than others to be suicidal and depressed.

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Uniformed Code of Military Injustice

UCMJ – Unjustly Coddling Military Jerks

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A Tribute to the Doors Ray Manzarek

The Doors keyboardist Ray Manzarek died Monday, he was 74 years old.

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All Is Forgiven

There’s a difference between true forgiveness and turning a blind eye.

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A Better Man

The first time a friend asked him to be best man at his wedding, Nathan Loewen wasn’t the best man he could be.

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The Best Man Money Could Buy

Ernie R writes to The Good Life of two best men: his own, and himself.

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Johnny Cash: Life, Love, and the Magic of Being Your Badass Self

Chantele Theroux on how to live and love like the Man in Black.

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