These are comments by Dan and Makena on the post “A Boy and His Penis“.
Dan said:
“What I told my sons was their penis was just that—THEIRS and theirs alone. It is offensive to other people to try to ‘share’ something that has not been asked to be shared. Keep it your pants unless you are asked otherwise—and then be VERY selective with whom you share yourself with. Your rights STOP where another person’s begin.”
Makena said:
“I am a single mom and I remember the panic I felt at this time in their development. I merely told my boys that this was ‘private time’ behavior and that they were free to have at it all they wanted as long as it was in a private place like their bedroom or bathroom. I never had issues with either of them stripping off after that discussion (different times for both as one is 19 and the other only 12). They have both developed rather healthy beliefs/attitudes toward their sexualities and bodie s… though I do still have to learn to not blush sometimes when my twelve year old wants to talk about masturbation Luckily, he thinks its funny so we get down to talking just fine after he teases me a bit.”
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If your son says, ‘Uncle blah touched my penis.’ Believe them! If your daughter says , ‘Aunty blah poked me in the vagina.’ Believe them. Why would you believe them? Because you taught them the correct names for their body parts from the time they could talk. And because you respect and value what your child has to say. Always believe a child when it comes to inappropriate touch: a) because it took great courage for them to tell you and b) children don’t lie about sexual touch. If you don’t believe a child when they disclosure you are a)… Read more »