This comment by budmin on the post An Open Letter To All The Nice Guys Out There: Don’t Stop Trying
What a beautifully heartfelt & well written piece but I just couldn’t forgive myself if I failed to bring up the following:
Hay You- Jerk!
1) “Nice Guys” lack resolve. FIX THAT!
2) STOP DESEXUALIZING YOURSELF. You are not her brother.
3) Know when you are being exploited & stop being a human dish ragg!
4) DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR NON-SEXUAL RECIPROCITY. (*STOP PAYING FOR LUNCH ALL THE TIME)
5) How about loving your own life 1st then see if your luck changes.
6) the “Friend Zone” is for stupid people. Either you are her friend 100% or you’re just a failed seducer who deserves to be fleeced & ridiculed. Enjoy her platonic company or G.T.F.O!
7) Learn how to say No.
8) Learn the difference between commercial attractiveness and real beauty. Then act accordingly
9) Don’t let the person in the mirror talk bad about you.
Finally. ..
10) Always rejected the tittle “Nice Guy”. All it does is puts you in a hapless mindset. Chicks don’t dig helpless men and they never will.
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Question of the Day:
Do “nice guys” really finish last, or are they actually the keepers in the long run?
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Good point and thanks for your clarification. Part of exchange of ideas and views is contemplating and addressing different approaches and points of view. That is how we change minds and make progress. We are all entitled to our views and an informed dialogue is the only avenue for progress.
Absolutely. Maybe you can share what exactly bothers you about #6. This is an important topic and warrants a little more thought and detail than you provided. Looking forward to more
How is it ever appropriate to say to a hurting man (and make no mistake, a lot of nice guys are, whatever their other faults) that they deserve to be fleeced and ridiculed? Way to reinforce the man box, you lot.
As I’ve said before – show me “straight talk” like this and I’ll show you bullying a fair amount of the time.
Really, GMP? You thought this comment merited a comment of the day, especially given 6?
You raise very good points. Self worth does come from within and is the most important thing. However, we are social creatures and live in a relative world and in relative existence. One way to open up opportunities for fulfillment and happiness is to eradicate silly notions that cripple people and depress them, like “good guys finish last” which is destructive and untrue, yet wildly believed and used.
“Chicks don’t dig helpless men and they never will.” I’m reasonably certain women don’t like being referred to as chicks as well. Maybe work on that yourself. Nice guys don’t finish last, we’ve already won the race. The problem is that people think the goal line is a relationship with someone else, but the goal isn’t about other people. It’s the relationship with yourself and how you treat others that matters. What other people do or don’t do, isn’t your problem. The goal is to be a Nice Guy, and that takes work and self examination. “The unexamined life is… Read more »