Accepting myself is a beautiful thing.
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This comment was by Tim Frame in reference to the post – 5 Things I Wish My Father Had Told Me About Men
Pushing 60, it might seem a bit odd that a fundamental part of my journey today is the quest to embrace and express my mortal wholeness. I’ve long sought to shun all but those parts of my natural, created self which felt unassailable and risk-free. But I’ve come to realize, of late, that I deeply hunger to be joyfully comfortable in my own male skin; to no longer experience and share only a partial me shaped by messages of mistrust I gleaned from our world since boyhood.
Not knowing better, I’d privately woven external messages about masculine energy’s capacity for harm into internal, unearned-yet-inferred and constraining stories about myself. To fully relax, celebrate and just be was barely a dream. Nowhere having ever sensed a deep, welcoming permission to be fully self-accepting, mine is not even a journey to reclaim something lost. No. Rather, it is to some day, in some way, stop pretending that my Creator must have made some mistake; to silence the story that I am somehow not a gift precisely as designed; that I’m somehow not nature’s own wisdom… and even joy.
It’s a journey to be born anew — into my wholeness and my truth.
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