Get help, be kind, grow up.
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This comment was by Mike in reference to the post – How Fear and Shame Are Killing The Modern Man
My wife and I are older Gen X parents and we spend a lot of time with couples who are about a decade younger than us. We walk out of dinner parties in utter disbelief how wives speak to their husbands today. Not in private, but in full view of their guests. Wives treat their husbands like children, and in some cases, men are just that. Grown children.
If you need help, you ask for help, but that doesn’t mean you throw everything else away. I’ll take Andy Griffith, Father Knows Best, and Leave it to Beaver over worshiping guys like Don Draper of Mad Men and the current day anti-heroes who cheats on his wife and abandons his kids. We glorify Don Draper and mock Ward Cleaver.
The world has changed but it doesn’t mean everything has to. Put down your phone. Get off the computer. Put down your video games. I’ll emulate those father’s in the 50’s and live a much happier life doing it. Those guys didn’t blame other people or play the victim. They did what they had to do and realized that they needed to make sacrifices.
There is a point where you need to get the help you need, but there is also a point where you quit whining and have to suck it up, Buttercup.
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