This is a comment by Lesli Doares on the post “Are Men Lazy?“
“I appreciate this thread very much. It reminds of a couple I counseled where the woman had two antagonistic expectations: she believed the man should be the primary breadwinner; and she believed she was entitled to a certain lifestyle. The main problem was that she married a teacher. She resented having to work at a high level job to maintain their standard of living. Her solution was for him to change careers. I see some form of this argument all the time.
“We keep trying to run away from our biological, evolutionary underpinnings and spend an incredible amount of time blaming each other instead of finding a workable solution. Our culture’s unrelenting focus on acquiring stuff drives a lot of it. I mean, do we really need to spend two days in line waiting to spend $600 for a phone so we can spend more time avoiding being in relationships with the people in the same room? Do we really need ever bigger homes so we don’t even have to be in the same room with the people we live with?
“Couples need to honor and respect the contributions each partner makes. We are designed to work together but somehow have really lost sight of that.”
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