This is a comment by Joan on the comment of the day: “My first year of marriage sucked. People expect what they see on TV and marriage is no exception.”
I came from a divorced home, so I had no illusions or fairy tales that prince charming, TV, or bride magazines were real life. Divorce teaches kids about marriage the hard way, more than any TV show ever will. Divorce taught me that marriage is about giving and serving to another’s life.
And yes, at first it sucks to put someone else’s needs before your own. But then you soon realize that by giving to someone else you get filled too. But that is life, that’s people, and that’s unconditional love.
Bear in mind, I’m 43 and never married, and I don’t fear marriage. Because I learned, single-life takes a lot of effort. Marriage takes a lot of effort. People take a lot of effort, but that’s life. Like you said, it’s what you make of it and what you put into it!
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