From GirlWritesWhat to Tom Matlack on “My Response to an Open Letter from MRAs“
“I am sure that won’t satisfy those for whom dogma is more important that individual stories of men doing inspirational things, sometimes in the face of great suffering.”
Oh Tom. Is that what it takes to be a good man? To do inspirational things, sometimes in the face of great suffering?
I would put forth the insane proposition that to be a good man, one need only be.
Drink beer, drink protein shakes, box, collect stamps, fix cars, hug puppies, arrange flowers, stand up to a bully, back down from a bully, be alone in the woods, hang with friends, do a job you love, do a job you hate, kiss your wife, tell her when she’s being a bitch, clean your gutters or let them clog, pay your taxes, sew curtains, fix the dryer, have sex, swear off sex, masturbate (three times daily if you like), enjoy shopping, take your kids to the park, tell them to clean their rooms, hate shopping, play Team Fortress 2, play Nintendogs, read a book, watch stupid YouTube videos, leave the last slice of pizza out for a week, be immaculate, talk or be silent.
None of that involves suffering, and none of it is inspirational, and yet it’s all good.
The rules to be a good man?
Rule 1: First, do no harm.
Rule 2: See rule one.
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