This is a comment by soullite on the post “The Single Biggest Obstacle Facing Boys and Men Today“.
Some of this I agree with, some of I don’t. However, the underlying truth is clear: every change in this society has come at the expense of men.
The answer, more or less, has been to blame video-games and pornography as if they were the problem. They are not. The problem is an elite – in both parties – that shipped all of the good jobs overseas and pocketed the resulting profits. The problem is that this same elite have cheered while the girls and women of my generation focused all of their attentions on sleeping with (and bearing children by) boys and men who wouldn’t even return their phone calls once the act was done, leaving the actual SES equals of those women (a large majority of men) both mateless and sexless.
The problem is an elite that’s decided that male sexuality is evil—that men shouldn’t “need” sex to be happy, even if we do, and that any complaint to the contrary was an announcement that we have a right to rape, or some other such nonsense. The problem is an elite that passed so many laws that if a man so much as steps out of line, they will find something—some minor act such as spitting on a sidewalk or slamming a door too loudly—to have them beaten and arrested, then sent to prison to be raped and tortured while the guards look on and laugh. The problem, in short, is that there is no hope and no future. No amount of complaining about “men today,” or their habits, will change that.
You want men to be good men? Then give them a reason to be good men. Give them a future—families, jobs and the purpose that comes with those things. Because if you don’t—if you really let a whole generation of men fester with no attachments to this society—then it won’t end well. We don’t have an economy that can paper over these resentments. We don’t have a respect for the rule of law strong enough to hold people in line. It’s considered an axiom of political science that the most dangerous thing to any society is an unmarried, unemployed young man. Well, look at the marriage rates among Millenials. Look at the unemployment rate among men under 35. Either we give these folks a place in our society, or we twiddle our thumbs until one of them lights a spark that’ll burn this whole thing down.
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