This is a comment by Danny on the post “What About the Womenz?“
“I think one of the biggest misconceptions about feminism is that addressing the rights of women will automatically address the issues of men. It is only half true.”
The problem is feminists themselves are putting up that illusion. Its not as feminists are saying that they don’t want to work with men, they openly advertise that they do. It becomes a misconception when people that want to work with them on men’s stuff realize that most feminists only want to work with men who pretty much start off agreeing with them and don’t challenge/question the ideology of feminism too much.
The mindset of a lot of feminists is “help women first and foremost which will either fix everything else or we’ll just get to it later”. This is how you end up with issues that affect men being twisted around to make it about women. Take child care. A lot of them don’t want to talk about how fathers are stigmatized as child molesters and thus people don’t trust them with children but if twist it into how women are stigmatized as child care givers and thus people expect them to be good at child care (to the point of thinking something is wrong with a woman that doesn’t want to care for children) and all of a sudden its a worthwhile topic.
A lot of feminists simply don’t like the idea of men being the primary focus even on topics that primaraly harm men and will simply deny men rather let us speak up out of fear that we might disagree with them.
I don’t identify as feminist or MRA but I’ll say this. There’s a lot of hatred among MRAs and I’m trying to get away from that. Feminists don’t want to hear me out unless I agree with them. As far as I’m concerned neither side is coming up smelling like roses. (And it also doesn’t help that a lot of feminists seem to want to excuse the negativity in their own movement by going on about how they aren’t “as bad as MRAs” like JK is asking about below. As if the existence of bad MRAs excuses the existence of bad feminists…)
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