This comment is from Jake on the open thread discussion “How Did You Learn About the Birds and the Bees?“
I didn’t have sex till I was in my 20s because I never had a real girlfriend in high school. Only group dates to the movies or prom which didn’t go past making out. And I never wanted that desperate have-sex-with-whoever-is-willing-just-so you’re-not-a-virgin act. I waited till I was in a relationship with a girl I really liked and I don’t regret it at all. We were both in our 20s and I was her 2nd and she was my 1st. We’re now in our 30s and we’re still friends.
You’re story is very similar to most. No sex talk from my parents. Nothing. Just bits and pieces from Sex Ed, media (tv/magazines), and most of all friends. But I think the good thing about waiting till you’re a little bit older to have sex is that you have a MUCH BETTER understanding of sex and you’re much more likely to use birth control correctly and to be more responsible.
I fear that if I would have had sex in my teens I might have impregnated a girl and ruined both our lives.
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