This is a comment by The Wet One on the post “It’s Okay to Want Sex“.
“It is truly a bizarre concept that women have “sex” and grant access to it. Neither men nor women can have sex without the other. Don’t believe me, read the lamentations of women in sexless marriages. That will really blow your understanding of male and female sexuality. I shared your view of men wanting sex and women wanting love (or some such partial nonsense). I’ve since learned that this is not quite true. No, not at all.
“It’s really bizarre to think that women own sex and portion it out to men. Men, in fact, own sex just as much as women do. They are just so much more willing to give it away. Thus, economic analysis enters into it.
“Anyways… Here’s to not saying ‘Women have it, men want it and the market sets the price.’ While this is true in a sense, it’s fundamentally wrong (except in true market situations which exist everywhere and have from time immemorial). “
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orly?
Seriously? You have never heard of gay or lesbian sex?
Astonishing. On the internet, even.
Could someone explain to me as if I was a very slow person what on earth people mean when they say women want love and men want sex. If you look around you might have notice all these couples holding hands and a bunch of them are even married. So what is going on in these relationships? Are the men just faking all that love for the sex and the women are just putting up with it by occasionally spreading there legs for desperate husbands? Is there something I’m missing or is this a case of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullshit ?
No that is pretty much what is happening. Men are faking it just to get sex. and women are putting up with it because they are grasping onto an ideal instead of the real thing. Because if they were honest with themselves about this “love” they’re getting, they’d run the other way. far, far away.
so yea, sounds like you pretty much got it right.
I think you knew what he meant. Please lets not make everything a P.C. issue.
That’s not making a PC issue. Saying that is derailing, even; you’re saying my point is not legitimate or worthy of serious thought. As for your other question, it’s well known that there are general differences between men and women, and I’m sure the original remark is in that vein. That all men are not alike, or all women, is also true, even while you can say general things about men that will be mostly true, most of the time, of most men, that are recognized as truths. When we assume we’re all alike, we say stupid things, and when… Read more »
If most women were as reticent about sex as is commonly portrayed, it would be easy to meet the 2 or 3 who like it.
There would be a line of men around their block begging for some action.
Was my sexual life a fluke? Do I really look that lucky?
I mean have you looked at me?