This comment by Joseph on the post East Come, Easy Go: Why Men Should Stop Settling For Less Than They Deserve
I was at a friend’s wedding once, and in his speech he said “and I’d like to thank my wife; because, well, she’s the only one who would have me.”
I facepalmed, naturally, and then I looked around. No one else seemed to have noticed the faux pas. They all laughed along. It’s a self-depreciating joke and everyone loves a guy who makes a self-depreciating joke. What they couldn’t see, or certainly no one betrayed that they could see it, was that this joke that he intended upon himself also impacted on her. He might as well have said “I’m crap so obviously I’m settling for whatever I can get.” Clearly he loved her, but the love was bourn mainly out of gratitude – thank you for not rejecting me.
That’s all I got to offer; just an anecdote illustrating a symptom – I don’t know what the solution is.
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Food for Thought:
We all deserve the best and although “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with” is a great song, you might not always be happy that way. Thoughts?
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Well, around in my hometown literally all the women are either taken or lesbian. I guess I should either start praying at the Temple of Antinous or find a way to go to the Philippines or Thailand.
We all deserve the best and although “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with” is a great song, you might not always be happy that way. Thoughts?
Well, we can’t always be happy in any relationship, so what’s the alternative(s)?
“if you can’t be with the one you love, hate the one you’re with”?
or
“if you can’t be with the one you love, stay in solitary confinement and hate yourself”?