This comment by Dina Strange on the post How to Break Up with a girl (From a Guy Who’s Done it Wrong a Few Times)
Most importantly, don’t be a coward about breaking up. Don’t do it by email or text message or in the middle of a fight. Also, when breaking up admit your mistakes – don’t blame a girl for your own mistakes. It makes you look pathetic and weak. And finally communication. Explain why it’s not working out for you and be honest. Same goes to women too, btw.
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Food for Thought:
Mature adults break up with respect and grace. We should all try and do that.
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Mostly good advice, but I’m not really comfortable with the “explain why it’s not working out for you” part. This can quickly slide into having to justify your decision, and you really don’t have to justify yourself. Your (ex)partner may not be able to understand your reasons for deciding to end the relationship, you may not be able to explain in a comprehensible way. You owe it to yourself to do what you know is right – not what you can convince others sounds right.
Completely agree. If it’s done than it’s done. No point prolonging the agony. If however, there is a possibility of a meaningful relationship, don’t use the breakup (i want a divorce) cry as leverage. You feel and want to work it out, say so and act on it
Another important thing to remember, stick to your guns. When you’ve made your mind up about breaking up, don’t go back on it because the person begs you for another chance, or you feel bad about it, or even pity for the other person. When it’s time to go, it’s time to go, so be straight and honest about it!