These are comments by Danny and John D on the post “The Dark Side of Women’s Requests of Progressive Men“.
Mark Greene originally said:
“Women have always had the role of being emotionally expressive but men have had the role of being the strong and stoic rock to cry on. Men are expected to be the ones who can bring order to a woman’s emotional chaos by tactfully guiding her to reflect on why she feels as she feels. Women are the emotionally expressive ones but men are the emotional nurturers.”
“I wonder if this could be a sign of some similar, ‘One side has been in this situation for so long now the other side is in it and it appears they don’t like it.’ Could it be that at least some women don’t want to be the strong and stoic rock to cry on?”
John D replied with:
“My wife essentially said this to me during my grieving period when my mother died. It wasn’t said out of meaness and was totally honest and she was just expressing a vulnerability. She said (something like) ‘I’m so tired of being the strong one, when I’m sad and need to cry too’ she said this in a plaintive voice as she broke into tears.
“I don’t begrudge her for saying it, and don’t think any worse of her. However, my mind can’t stop thinking about how dastardly I would appear to be if I said something similar during her grieving period for a parent.”
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