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  1. wellokaythen says:

    There are good reasons for having children and bad reasons for having children. There are also good reasons to be childfree and bad reasons to be childfree. The difference is that being childfree for the wrong reasons does no harm, while having kids for the wrong reasons could be disastrous all around.

    Boredom, or the impossibility of imagining anything else, is a really bad reason to bring a child into the world, in my opinion. Unfortunately, this reasoning (or lack of reasoning) still seems far too common.

    What I hope to see more of are people who accept their choices and take responsibility for the choices they make. For example, if you are a mother in America today, you have chosen to be one. You made dozens of choices that resulted in a child. You did not “get pregnant” or “wind up with a couple of kids.” A baby did not just “come into your life.” It was your choices that did it. The rewards and challenges of parenting are things you experience because of the choices you made. (If you miss work because of your kids, you’re missing work because of choices that you made.) Maybe looking back it didn’t seem like a choice, but it was a choice nonetheless.

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