This is a comment by patrick “What Marriage Means to Me“.
Thanks for your thoughts on marriage and divorce. Although I do not agree with everything you write, it is good to hear the experience of someone who has gone down this road. I think you extend, and practice, the idea that marriage is about romantic love. Very much like the majority of Western society.
I’m very old-school in my belief; marriage is not and should not be about romantic love at all, but struggle. Marriage should be hard. It is cutting you out of wood, making you a better person. That process is painful. It goes against our very nature to be in romantic love with someone forever. We are not created this way. We can however love someone for life, as in, want the best for them always, to be truthful and honest and tolerant with another flawed human being as best as we can. This I know.
It saddens me your marriage ended, but it is good to see you are a forgiving person and you are being much more mature about the situation than many men before you and after you. Thanks again.
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