This is a comment by BP and Keevo on the post “Poll: Why is Our Society Obsessed with Modern Men and Manliness?“
“If NYT ran a story about why modern women are not womanly enough, there would be riots in the streets.”
“Exactly. As usual it’s a simple matter of reversing the genders and you can easily imagine the reaction! Projection is the fundamental nature of this behaviour. What I mean is that men can never be considered “manly” enough. It’s like a carrot dangling in front of our noses, we keep striving to meet an impossible standard and the goal posts keep being shifted back. Whether men actually are ‘manly’ enough in reality has nothing to do with it whatsoever.
“It’s just so patently obvious that endlessly complaining that men don’t live up to an ideal maintains the pressure to keep striving harder and harder to live up to it, like a hampster in a perpetual wheel of insecurity. Will we ever be considered adequate as we are? I doubt it, society has always benefitted from this mind game.”
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