This is a comment by Jimbo on the post “Let’s Assume I’m a Virgin”.
“HA. Man you young guys think you have it all figured out. 23 years old and you are just so mature you’ve grown out of the ‘stage’ where you want to have sex with every hot chick you see. I used to think I had it all figured out at 23 also. I didn’t. Back then even with all the problems I had attracting women (and with being a virgin) I had a couple of girls who liked me enough to either offer to make out with me or even give me a blowjob. I turned them down mostly due to the standards I had of ‘they weren’t pretty enough or were a little overweight.’ What a mistake.
“Now I’m 36 and married to a very caring and understanding wife, and I still want to have sex with every hot girl I see every time I see one. It doesn’t mean I love my wife an less, it just means that I still want to have sex with attractive women. In addition I think about those girls from college at least once a week not only am I filled with regret for not hooking up with them, but also for thinking they weren’t that attractive. Total and absolute failure on my part. Trust me, when you are in your 30’s you’ll look back on your 20’s and wonder why you were wasting your time doing what you are doing now, which is nothing.
“Don’t mistake not wanting to have sex with every hot girl you see as some proof of maturity, it’s not. I don’t know what it is. In fact I can respect your celibacy to an extent if it’s a religious choice. At least then I’d know it was your spiritual beliefs that you were staying a virgin for. However when I read the line that said ‘something to look forward to,’ it made me wonder if you had been talking to my mom, or were in fact my mom as that was her line to me as a kid. ‘Sex is something to look forward to on your wedding night.’ UGH. That’s was just horrible, awful, and wrong advice.
“Yes, something bad might happen. That’s how relationships work. People break up, feelings are hurt, and suddenly the person you felt closest to in the world no longer wants to see or speak to you. That’s just how it is. After a while you get over it, move on, and find someone else. There’s not just one person out there for everyone like some romantic fairy tale. The majority of people have to break hearts and have their hearts broken to find a relationship that can last.”
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