These are comments by Terence Manuel and Don Draper on the post “Confessions of an Ex-Sex Kitten“.
Terrance Manuel said:
“There’s no such thing as ‘casual sex.’ The sex act is purposefully intense … it means SOMETHING! I happen to believe that when you partake in sex with another, in essence, you are giving a portion of your ‘soul’ to another. That can’t be casual … that’s serious.”
How can you really say this goes for everyone? Not everyone wants intimacy. People want to connect with other humans, period. Again, here in America we have just made this out to be far more complicated.
“I have met a good many people who have had dozens of sexual partners. Most of them are dealing with various forms of guilt and regret.”
How about those of us who have had a paucity of sexual partners, been married and are dealing with guilt, regret? I feeling that marriage and committed relationships are just a fraud. They are prescriptions for sexual deprivation and anguish.
There are indeed two sides to this issue. I guess a rich and wealthy person can feel guilt and regret. But a poor person cannot? The poor person can feel the pain of lack and deprivation as well.
Ms. Dierbeck is like a drug user who overindulges and then after 20 yrs of this behavior wants to say smoking weed at any level is just so horrible. She speaks for her own dysfunctional self, IMO.
Don Draper said:
I believe there is a primal side to all humans that does, in fact, only wants sex, even without intimacy. It’s the natural instinct of procreation … dogs and cats have that, too.
However, I believe that normally developed humans, want much more. If there are humans who truly want no more than to commit the sex act, without emotional attachments, and that is ALL they want, they are second cousins to rapists, and have pathological issues. Mature and “whole” humans want their partners to know them through and through, and STILL, love them, flaws and all…that’s intimacy.
That’s what makes humans different than dogs. If you disagree, then we’ll agree to disagree.
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