This is a comment by Danny on the post “Confessions of An Ex-Sex Kitten“.
needy. said:
What would that cost be? What’s wrong with that “horndog male” role? Why should we be looked down upon for wanting something like that?
Danny said:
The problem with the “horndog male” role isn’t the role itself but the why behind fulfilling it. By all means if a given guy wants to have a sex life that fits that bill because that is the type of sex life he wants then he should go out and do it and there is nothing wrong with that. I’m not one of those hypocrites that will say that women shouldn’t be bound by rules when it comes to sex in one breath but then say that men should be bound in the next.
What I’m talking about is whether I would want that type of sex life for myself because its what I want or because that’s what other people want me to have because I’m a guy.
I’m working pretty hard now to determine which parts of the established male role I actually want to partake of. What I’m saying is if I had been sexually active younger in life that would be another thing I would have to think though.
About the Editors
I must admit that other than the fact that people repeat over and over again a generalized notion that male sexuality is both immediate and that men are congratulated for frequently fulfilling their immediate sexual needs I have not actually heard I haven’t read anything that specifically validated men acting in ways that would allow them to act on their immediate sexual needs. There was a recent article by Clarisse Thorn called why do we demonize men for expressing their sexual needs? However I looked at her blog and she wrote an article about how the first time she was flogged by a man she had no idea that it was coming and she had no idea how hard and painful it was going to be. So when I read that I think well of course this person is going to be accepting of male desire because she is accepting of some pretty extreme things. Other than that article I have found nothing that specifically validates men acting on their desires.
Which is really really really weird when you think about it because their is a lot out there about slut shaming. I have not read anything that was by a more obnoxious brand of internet style feminist that elucidates specifically the difference between being a “slut” and being a “horn dog” although I suspect that the female counterpart to “horn dog” might be slightly more edgy than the average women labelled a “slut.”
I think men often have a strong sex drive and it is probably in many ways different than many women. Maybe a certain degree of mystery and difference keep things interesting. But when it reaches the point where men’s desires are not just considered different but also inferior then there is something wrong.
I posted an article to Reddit about male “slut shaming” which was written by a man. A poster responded “ROFL men are slut shamed stop objectifying women” I think the poster was from the ShitRedditSays community which is a community of self-proclaimed feminists on Reddit known for their trolling, obnoxiousness and the peculiar fact that their rhetoric is so outlandish that it is nearly impossible to distinguish from satire.
Very well said.