This is a comment by Archy on the post “David Beckham, Jeremy Lin and Eli Manning: Taking a Stand Against Violence Against Women“.
“I want to know why those who are so in support of these violence against women campaigns haven’t already made, and popularized a similar one for men? Support for domestic violence is extremely gendered, only one gender truly gets any decent support. I have better chances it seems of bedding 2 models tomorrow night then seeing a decent campaign on suppporting male victimization and dare I say it, female perpetration that actually reachs even 1/4 of the level the violence against women campaigns get.
“To me, that is probably the most dehumanizing and saddening things I’ve noticed, that gaping black hole of awareness, we have had stats proving men get significant levels of abuse and women commit significant levels of abuse, yet for the last decade that these stats have been out (maybe longer) there still hasn’t been anything even remotely similar to the white ribbon campaign that I’ve ever seen even spoken about in the mainstream media.
“The only campaign I’ve seen is http://www.oneinthree.com.au which I’ve NEVER seen in Australian media, I only found it by chance in google. People need to realize the message they’re sending men, there is a good reason there are many bitter and aggrivated men, especially when the words ”violence against women’ are used. Having scars deep in my mind and knowing other men that have had physical, mental, n sexual abuse perpetrated by women as I have had against me, it pisses me off to never hear of the support for violence against men. I caused a bit of a stir with some female friends because I flat out refused to support the white ribbon campaign, told them I can’t support it as it should be violence against all people, or at least have created a brother campaign after all this time. There are no excuses left to justify the lack of support for men, clearly society doesn’t really seem to give a flying fuck about men and it’s very hard to care about others when no one cares about you.
“Imagine being a male victim of abuse, seeing so many resources for women but very little for you because you have a penis and you’re seen as the aggressor even if you don’t fight back. I’d like to see the creator of these campaigns of stopping violence against women tell me why they didn’t make it gender neutral, or why they or those who have the resources haven’t made a campaign for men and had it reach even 1/10th the awareness the white ribbon campaign got.
“Asking one gender to stand up n to end violence against the other gender whilst their own gender is ignored in regard to their own victimization especially at the hand of the other gender .. Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see how blatantly offensive that can be. If there were no anti-rape campaigns for women and I made one only for men, I’d expect women to be pissed off when no one else seems to bother making one.
“I am young, have very few resources and various illnesses to battle so I can’t do much to start a campaign but it breaks my heart to know that there are so many who say they support ending DV against all people, but there is only one campaign that barely gets a mention that I know of in Aus, haven’t heard of any globally. This chivalrous action that is expected of us quite frankly feels wrong. I especially get angry when I see violence against women AND children type statements, it completely dismisses violence against men as if it is different or doesn’t exist, and that women and children are the only ones worthy of our support.
“I fully support ending violence against ALL. Not women only, not men only, not one gender of adult and the kids only, but ALL.”
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