This is a comment by Rob on the post “The Sandusky Verdict: Stepping Out of the Shame“.
“When I’m close enough to someone (adult), or have social license enough to discuss the topic as a survivor, I ease them into the talk. That is, I feel-out what they will allow. Universally however, they will shut me down with a statement similar to ‘Yeah … I just don’t even want to think about this stuff. You know … It’s too much “ugliness” for me.’
“If it’s someone with whom I have significant license, I have been heard to say, ‘It’s exactly how I felt when it was actually happening to me. I had no choice to turn away then. I had no choice. I had to endure it. It was too much ugliness for me, but I endured.’”
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