This is a comment by Æther on the post “On Unsolicited Penis Pics“.
“From this discussion and the other threads on porn I am coming to the conclusion that perhaps there’s an element of transference happening here by following formula:
“Man (naturally) loves his penis + the hyper-focus on genitalia in porn + the ‘acting’ in porn of the recipient of the presented screen-filling erection looking incredibly happy & turned on at just the mere sight of it & nothing else & then the initiation of sex = man thinking the dick pic = happiness & arousal on the part of the recipient.
“There is such variety in life and sexual arousal, that there are of course going to be people happy to get them, but I agree the population is small. When someone “doesn’t get” something related to sex (or something else like whether they love cilantro or hate it,) it’s usually because they are presented with something that doesn’t do anything for them. For example, the 100% heterosexual man saying, “I just don’t get gay sex. How can they do that? It’s gross.” Well, you’re “just not getting it” because you’re not wired to be aroused by it—you’re attracted to women, you want to have sex with women.
“Attempting to imagine experiencing arousal by visualizing sex between two men, or you and another man isn’t going to do much for you, may make you feel weird, off, even perhaps some disgust = you ‘just not getting it.’ But just because it doesn’t do anything for you, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong for someone else. This is my theory for the “I just don’t get it” phenomenon. I will forever now wonder if the unsolicited dick pic will equal that the person I’m talking to consumes a lot of porn.
“The best solicited dick pic I’ve ever received actually showed no dick at all. I was flirting with someone I met in school, but he had just moved to Hawaii. We had been taking turns sending pics of things we’d ask for, sexual or not. He was texting me from a party, asking for a picture of my breasts. I sent a pic of my naked torso. He asked if I wanted in turn to see his cock. I didn’t want to go there, as the lonely screen filling erection does nothing for me, and I had yet to even meet his penis in person.
“So I thought for a few minutes how I might still involve his penis in this game. I came up with asking him to go write ‘I (heart) [my first name]‘ in the white sand of the beach the next time he left the party to piss. Then photograph his work, and send it to me. I’m not sure if that qualifies as a dick pic, but he was certainly holding his penis and thinking of me, and I got photographic evidence of it. I liked that idea much better than just looking at his erection without the rest of him. He responded with, ‘LMAO! That is just awesome.’ … And the pic. Good thing I have a short name.”
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