This is a comment by Erin on the post “I’d Court You if I Didn’t Have to Objectify You First“.
“Curt, you got a lot of good qualities going on that any woman would be lucky to experience. I loved your piece. It’s very open and intelligent.
“Don’t assume that all us women are being hit on all the time. Certain females very well may get hit on all the time, but a lot of us regular girls aren’t. Some of us would love for a nice man to talk to us in public. I for one prefer this over internet dating. But I never had many men come up to me and hit on me in real life.
“But I understand why a cold approach is difficult for men. Perhaps it would benefit you to get involved in an activity that you like that includes both other guys and women. Usually sharing a common area of interest with another member of the opposite sex is a great way to break the ice. And I’m not just talking about romantically but the more time you spend with members of the opposite sex, the more you can see them for the human beings they are.
“I personally think objectification can be a fine line. While women don’t like being objectified or have their objectification glamorized like a lot of media does to women, we do want to be attractive to our male partners. I don’t think there is any woman that really wants to be in a relationship where a man only likes her for her intelligence but isn’t physically attracted to the body she was given. It’s a package deal because people are package deals. While we aren’t just our bodies, our bodies come with us. A woman also doesn’t want to be in a relationship where a man only likes her body or makes her body the holy grail of his sexual existence. We do want to be seen as whole people after all. But part of being seen as a whole person is taking into account our minds AND our bodies.”
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