This is a comment by Mike on the post “Panda Three-Way“.
I’m not really sure what’s going on here, but I cannot help but wonder about the potential for a false solution.
On the one hand, it seems extremely attractive: having a “guide” (for lack of a better word) could easily reduce anxiety and make everything more enjoyable.
But on the other hand, why is there so much anxiety in the first place? If a couple is open, honest, and communicates freely, fear over “performance” should go away on its own.
It seems like this set up would bolster confidence but not do much for communication. Confidence can reduce anxiety, certainly, but what’s really more important: knowing that your performance will please your partner, or knowing that the relationship you have with your partner is stronger than any performance issues that might crop up?
This could certainly solve the former, but isn’t the latter more important?
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