Because our impressions of events and what is a “culture” is determined by what and who we DO and DON’T care about, says Eric M.
This comment is by Eric M., in reply to Quantuminc, on the post How I Started to See the Light on Rape Culture.
“Unfortunately there is so precise definition of ‘rape culture.’”
Correct. It is whatever the person who believes in it says it is, no different than burglary or car-jacking culture. That it exists in one person’s mind doesn’t mean it actually does exist.
However, I understand why it exists in the mind of many. Properly, they care about women, what happens to them matters. That’s the right way to feel, IMO. So they focus on it mentally and anything that reminds them of it is part of what they consider to be the culture. I get that. I am surrounded by ladies in my own family and care deeply for their safety and work to ensure it.
To illustrate that what we believe to be a “culture” is determined by what and WHO we do and don’t care about:
What if the murder rate of white women suddenly increased by 500% nationwide? What would the reaction be? There would be a sudden, dramatic, and urgent shift in attention and call to action. Activist groups would mobilize, press conferences would be called, 800#s, websites, blogs, congressional hearings, presidential speeches, funding would allocated even with an insolvent government, increased police and judicial focus, declarations of a war on women would be heard on the news daily, declarations by the same “rape culture” activists of a “war on women” and “murder of women culture.” It would be a national call to action to end this “culture.”
Why? Because of care. Concern. Appropriately so.
So, why is it that black boys and men are murdered at that 500% higher rate every day of every year and none of that takes place? Each and every day the response is silence and indifference.
I use this to illustrate how our impressions of events and what is a “culture” is determined by what and who we DO and DON’T care about. So, why the talk of rape culture so often but not murder of black boys’ culture, for example? Because of what and who we do and don’t care about.
If our society acted as if it cared, perhaps things would improve for these kids. It’s worth a shot.
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