The Best Don’t Ask For Help (and Other Lies)

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  1. CajunMick says:

    Thank you for sharing your story, Mr. Jones.
    It defin. touched a nerve. I’ve had experiences that have mirrored some of your own. I’m a vet, too. Esp. about fatherhood and the joy and healing it has brought to me.
    I was little afraid that I might (emotionally) lean too much on my child. That ‘s what happened to me with one of my parents. One parent lived for me, and the burden of that was tremendous for a kid of that age. So, I was careful with my son. I have tried to be very conscious about healthy emotional boundaries, and I think it worked. He turned out fine.
    I’ve sought counseling in dealing with the crap from the past. I’m working on being part of a group of friends that support each other. I’m learning about peace.
    Good luck to you on your own journey, Mr. Jones!

  2. Good on you for seeking help. All the uber-successful people you see in life have been messed up or screwing up or in over their heads at some point. Most of them just hide it, because stigma sucks. They succeed because they keep trying again and again while thinking through how to make things work better next time, and because they ask for help instead of trying to do everything on their own. Try to get your emotional support from finding loyal guy-friends, to whom you can safely vent about how unfair your ex was. Sometimes one needs to take a break from dating for a while to break a toxic pattern.

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