Gender and Sexual Violence: Manufacturing Victimhood, Marginalizing Victims

Premium Membership, The Good Men Project

About Typhonblue

Typhonblue is a Canadian in her thirties. She writes about the state of decay in the relationship between the genders in our culture with a focus on men’s vulnerability and women’s agency. She blogs at


  1. “98% of female rape victims and 93% of male rape victims had a male perpetrator. ”

    When people use this stat to say we live in a sexist culture it is so incredibly frustrating. What is even more bizarre are the occasions where you point out that being forced to penetrate doesn’t count as rape in the stats they quote and it still doesn’t change their opinion. They still believe the stats as a valid indicator.

    “Of course rape is about penetration.”

    At that point i don’t know what to say anymore.

  2. One possible reason for men not disclosing, or even “forgetting”, is quite simple: our social narrative does not allow for, nor does it depict, the sexual abuse of males. To a degree it allows for the sexual abuse of boys by men, but not boys by women or adult men by anyone.

    Bang On The Money!

    The same applies across all areas of society. It took nearly 20 years in the UK to get both Government and Law enforcement to recognise Male Rape By Male Perps – and then we still have the ongoing issues of Domestic Violence against Males by Female Perps – and the delays are primarily caused by Social narratives and Stereotypes.

    I even know of one case of sexual predation and abuse of Disabled People – In institutions – by a Husband and Wife – He committed suicide to avoid prosecution – The Court was presented with multiple charges against “Her” of Sexual Assault/Rape – and the Court decided to let the charges lie on file (Not Deal With Them In Court and Pursue the Prosecution) – but they can be prosecuted at a later date, if the court should decide to so so. After 10 years it’s still all hush hush and she is walking the streets – free!

    “Longcare Survivors – The Biography Of A Care Scandal” – one Journalist’s 17 year journey into “One” Institutional scandal – at least 10 years of failure by police, authorities and so many others – and at least 40 recorded victims of what was reported in the UK National news as “..raped, kicked, punched, drugged, starved and neglected the adults with learning difficulties who lived in his residential homes in south Buckinghamshire.” – and all ignored due to “Social Narrative” that says Disabled people are angelic, and no- one abuses Angels!

    You also only have to look at the US figures for rape and sexual assault against males in juvenile detention to be shocked – as 90% of the sexual assaults and rapes are perpetrated by Women – more than are committed by other Juveniles in detention and male warders. The “Bureau of Justice Statistics – SPECIAL REPORT – Sexual Victimization in Juvenile Facilities Reported by Youth, 2008-09” is fascinating, especially page 13,

    Most perpetrators of staff sexual misconduct were female

    Approximately 95% of all youth reporting staff sexual misconduct said they had been victimized by female facility staff…

    …In 2008, 42% of staff in juvenile facilities under state jurisdiction were female.

    The same figure features in the Press Releases

    There is the odd claim which goes with it all – “Males were more likely than females to report sexual activity with facility staff (10.8 percent compared to 4.7 percent), but less likely than females to report forced sexual activity with another youth…”

    Now does that mean that the Male Youths were not reporting being raped/sexually assaulted – or was/is there an Institutional Bias and attitude that just Dismisses such reports by males – because “…social narrative does not allow for, nor does it depict, the sexual abuse of males.”.

    Maybe there is an underlying issue around legal liability – rape by an employee gets Big Bucks In Court, so managers are worried about the bottom line. But, rape of an inmate by an inmate is less likely to end up with a Major Compensation Payout – so it’s of less interest and worry for the Bean Counters!

    … ah – but Institutional rape and sexual abuse is not the real thing – it’s to be expected – and it even gets Joked about with “Don’t Drop The Soap” – such an odd Social Narrative making rape of men by anyone a joke and ever so funny.

    It’s Called Rape Culture – and I have found it fascinating exploring the Number of Online pages that can supposedly tell you what you “Prison Bitch Name” will be, should you end up incarcerated. A Number of the pages even have guest books – which provide names and even email addresses to Students in American Colleges and Universities. Most surprising are the number of female students who find the names generated for Boyfriends, Fellow Male Students and even Employees of the institution ever so funny, whilst also wishing these men to be in prison and subjected to Rape! It’s Hilarious!

    It would seem that some “Social Narratives” have a very skewed perception and application. Oddly, recent media hype around events and incidents at colleges don’t stop the humour by female students!

    Eduction just aint what it used to be – especially when you are giving out an email address and your name which shows who you are – and which college or university you are studying at! FAIL!

    • As a victim of female assult this articles sataistics is a slap in the face!

    • Random_Stranger says:

      Something odd about the results of that Bureau of Justice study. The reality of correctional facilities is that female officers are given far greater access to prisoners and correctional functions in male facilities than their male counterparts in female facilities. I think the response of these male jvs is their emotional internalization of being forced to disrobe before women who are doing their “job”. The situation is the logical extrapolation of a society that is deeply suspicious of any desire by men to exclude women, even from their own bodies, while in turn, giving vast deference and legitimacy to womens’ presumed fear of men.

  3. Great article, Typhon. I think it is important for people who want to help victims of sexual violence to take the in-depth look at the numbers that you did because things are often not as clear-cut as they seem. Had the researchers looked at their data in this why, I think they might have changed their conclusion. It seems obvious that there may be an issue with the amount of reports coming from men and with how the researchers defined certain acts.

  4. Anthony Zarat says:

    Thank you for this article Typhon. As always, an inspiration.

  5. Richard Aubrey says:

    When a group is seen as victimized, it accumulates moral authority. That’s like money in the bank. Sometimes it’s really money in the bank.
    When members of a group are seen to victimize, that’s a withdrawal from the account–the moral authority account.
    That’s why everybody’s heard of Matthew Shepard but Jesse Dirkhising is a “who?” Everybody knows about the Duke laxers but Katie Rouse is a “who?” Everybody’s heard of Abu Ghraib but Menchaca and Tucker are “who?”
    Everybody knows about James Byrd, but the Knoxville Horror….

    • All the cases you’ve mentioned there are horrifying, but there’s other explanations for the disparity in coverage than that the liberal media was loathe to report on minority-on-majority crime. Sheppard was a hate crime done to Sheppard because he was gay. Dirkhising was a horrible case of child molestation. It’s apples and oranges. James Byrd was killed because he was black. The victims of the Knoxville Horror case do not appear to have been selected out of racial hatred. If the media chose not to report on two gay men who killed a guy for being straight, or a group of black men who raped a killed a white couple after having decided to go hunting for white people (as the killers of James Byrd did that night) then there would be more cause for concern about disparate reporting. Also, as far as Abu Ghraib, I think the fascination with the case came from horror that Americans would conduct themselves thus. We all saw the contractors dead on the bridge in Fallujah. We had seen the beheading of Daniel Pearl. We knew what to expect from the enemy. The horros of the enemy’s conduct do not seem to me to have been underreported.

      That said, this is a good and thoughtful piece. I’m a woman, and prejudice that results in us being given a pass serves us not at all. It strips us of our power. What does it say when we can’t be drafted? We are weak? We have nothing to offer? We’re not suited for the business of war? Too delicate? I’m not happy with any of those perceptions, and dont’ believe them to be true at all.

      And when couples are busted for drugs, but women are routinely allowed to escape prosecution for those drug crimes in they served as partners but for which their husbands or boyfriends are sentenced for much longer terms because men are the ones perceived as having agency, I have to object.

      When women are not prosecuted for domestic violence, because they aren’t perceived as presenting a real threat, or considered a force to be taken seriously, I also object. Not only because it paints my gender in an inaccurate light, but because I happen to like justice.

      When women are granted child custody nearly automatically because they are seen as fundamentally better suited to parent and also the partner most suited for economic dependence on the other, I also object. That puts us in the house, in the kitchen, and powerless all over again, while ignoring the reality that fathers are just as likely to be excellent parents.

      All of these are examples of ways in which women are not served by stereotypes that appear to serve them on the surface. Ignoring sexual violence on the part of women is one of many such unhealthy tendencies.

      Women fought long and hard for justice for themselves, with the support of many awesome men. Now men are going to have to do the same, and there will be many of us in support.

      • Keep it up. It sounds more convincing when it comes from a woman because people perceive as arguing against interest, even though you know better. It may be lonely for now, but I am hearing what you are saying from more and more women. You are beginning to turn the tide.

      • What you are saying becomes more poiant when the woman is insane. My ex-wife was a victim and an abuser. In spite of the fact that I was abused by her and my son was sexually abused she was given custody. In his case it was state sanctioned sexual abuse of a minor.

        Everytime I tried to bring it up to the social workers involved with the case they said if I brought it up in court I could be thrown in jail because I would be considered the active agent.

        I know that I am not an isolated case because I have met other men over the years that the courts treated the same way.

  6. Typhon,

    Great article, and thanks for breaking down the stats!

    Now if only we can do something about it ; )

  7. Richard Aubrey says:

    Couple of items. I note you didn’t reference Katie Rouse.
    I was watching comments on a blog about Shepard. One commenter made a good case that, given the reports, Shepard was killed by some meth heads for his money, not as a matter of gay bashing. He was called a homophobe. The gay community needs that deposit in its account and isn’t going to give it up easily.
    I don’t know that the Knoxville perps weren’t hunting white people. I guess your point would be that they’d have grabbed a black couple if they were the first convenient victims?
    A white cabbie and his white passenger in NYC were pulled from the vehicle by a mob of blacks who beat them, while yelling anti-white slurs. The powers that be declined to label that a hate crime. It would have been a withdrawal from the account. The powers that be don’t want to see a withdrawal. Had the line up been different, the label would have been different. How about Kenneth Tillery, btw?
    The line up determines whether the thing is a hate crime, legally or as generally presumed. As I said about the Duke/Lombard case, the line up is all victim-class folks and nobody has a clue as to what to do or say about it. Colliding narratives.

  8. “Rape could easily be redefined as forced envelopment, which is exactly as arbitrary as the NIPSVS’s redefinition of rape. In that case we would find that 80+% of rapists are female. Which is as fatuous a finding as the reverse.”

    You provide zero evidence to back this up. You made up a statistic and attempted to bury it in the middle thinking we’d not notice…

  9. You know what the NIPSVS study also said:

    “Male rape victims and male victims of non-contact unwanted sexual experiences reported predominantly male perpetrators.” -Direct quote from the Summary

    This pretty much goes against what you’re trying to finagle here. Nice try, however.

    • When you define rape as ‘forced penetration’ but not ‘forced envelopment–in other words you take forced sex and arbitrarily divide it into ‘rape’ if the rapist is forcing penetration and ‘not rape’ if the rapist is forcing envelopment–you get a majority of male rapists.

      If you define rape as ‘forced envelopment’ but not ‘forced penetration–in other words you take forced sex and arbitrarily divide it into ‘rape’ if the rapist is forcing envelopment and ‘not rape’ if the rapist is forcing penetration–you get a majority of female rapists.

      The point is that the survey _defined_ rape in such a way as to make the majority of rapists _MALE_, simply by not allowing that a vagina can be used as a instrument of rape.

      Of course most rapists will be male if you don’t think vaginas can be used to rape!

      • ??? is a troll, or someone with blind bias who needs to read the CDC report more carefully. It’s amazing how easily the bias in the report can be believed, people see that catch term RAPE and don’t understand that it doesn’t cover forced to penetrate.

        An excellent article typhon_uncensored and I truly hope more people read it. Thanks.

  10. Boy you really tried hard with this one- but you still lost. I agree with ???.

    • ??? got stuck on the definition of rape by the study which didnt include many male victims, it didn’t include the males forced to penetrate. So by the CDC defintion, yes ??? was right but by the common understanding of rape as forced sex ??? was wrong. It’s very very easy to see if you read the report from about page 17 onwards.

Speak Your Mind