Personalized Porn: What We Can Learn From the Camgirl Revolution

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About Andrew Neel

Andrew Neel is a filmmaker. As part of Brooklyn-based SeeThink Films, a partnership of four filmmakers, Neel produces commercials and feature films, both narrative and documentary.

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  1. Valter Viglietti says:

    Thank you Andrew, very interesting description of a phenomenon I didn’t really know it was that common.

    Personally I like porn, but I can’t see myself using that kind of service; I think I couldn’t shake off the feeling it’s all fake – but who knows…

    Regarding the (almost) inevitable question: “Is it good? Is it bad?”, I think it’s relative – as with everything else.
    IMO, for the men it’s way better than drinking or harassing a girl trying to “score”. At the same time, it’s way less positive than a real relationship; but, hey, something is always better than nothing, isn’t it?
    I think the real boundary of when it gets “bad”, is when it becomes an addiction.

    Lastly, I know many women (and some men) will think that being a cam-girl is “degrading” or “immoral”. IMO, as long as it’s a free choice, it’s just work.
    As an example, AFAIK nobody complains that some men risk their life working in mines or such.
    Thus, if working in life-threathening condition is ok, why sexwork should be any more worthy of complain?
    As a matter of fact, very few people have the job of their dreams. ;)

  2. wellokaythen says:

    Any interaction between two people is a “relationship” of some kind. So, every client is in a relationship with the cam girl. The question isn’t whether they’re in a relationship or not, but what KIND of relationship are they in? It probably runs a broad spectrum from simple business exchange to some bit of getting-to-know-each-other to probably in some rare cases a deeper, wider ranging intimate relationship. Anyone you hire for sex work will be in a relationship with you, but bear in mind it is probably much more of a limited relationship than you may think it is.

    Being a good sex worker, good actress, or good service provider sometimes means acting like someone else’s friend/confidante in the name of getting the job and maintaining repeat business. That’s not necessarily the same as being a real friend, even less a girlfriend. After all, much of the pleasure of experience is based on fantasy and role play. It has to be believable, but try not to be too gullible.

    As with any other relationship, one person may have a totally different idea about what’s going on than what the other one thinks is going on.

    (Fortunately or unfortunately, I’m not speaking from experience, so this is speculation on my part.)

  3. Random_Stranger says:

    You know, when it comes to sex work, I’m curious why we limit our examination of the power differential and propensity for exploitation as flowing unequivocally from the male consumer upon a female supplier. We ask ourselves if the supplier is a victim of consumer exploitation with various sides arguing only the degree to which she is or is not.

    But, I ask you, how many similarly characterized markets do we default the buyer as the prime power broker? Do we as readily cite a drug user for exploiting a drug dealer or a fast food consumer for exploiting salty, sugary snack companies? It just seems to me that because the sex market is characterized by a supply side where entry is restricted to a relatively small number of competitors and a vast demand side whose appetite, like Tantalus,only increases with each dollar spent, that we should at least ask if these women are in fact, not exploiting these men? And if they are, do they not bear prime responsibility for their actions and the negative externalities and impacted lives left by their market?

  4. I watch the site, I find there is more realism in their bodies than most pro porn. I see how some get hooked up n fall for the girls n I feel bad for them I guess. The girls are often very friendly which is pretty cool, it’s porn but it’s also not as fake as pro porn in the way it feels.

  5. Good you goodmen for having such erudite readers. These responses are really interesting. I guess the question of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ (as noted in your comments) is pretty silly. There are varying degrees of involvement in the cam-girl world some of which are healthy and some of which are not.

    I suppose i would ask this: are we in fact a lonely animal…lost in a world so over-determined by self-centered consumerism where even our sexual encounters (perhaps the most tactile of all experiences) has been turned into a virtual transaction? Or!!!??? in some way has the cam girl brought some level of human interaction back into the porn experience?

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