On Homophobia: The Elephant in the Room

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  1. I too have to wonder why some people are so preoccupied by Nocturnal Manoeuvrings in my Bedroom?

    What’s worse is when the same people tell me they are thinking about me all the time – which means they think about gay sex all the time! Some folks are just way too repressed and evidently need to do some tension relieving exercises!

  2. wellokaythen says:

    Hmm….I use peanut butter, but I suppose Nutella could be just as fun. I’d feel so…European.

    Seriously, though, I think you’re right about the fact that much of the resistance to gay marriage or gay rights essentially boils down to sex. If gay people can get married, then that means that gay sex and hetero sex would be on the same moral plane. Legal gay marriage would be like accepting gay sex as equivalent to hetero sex, and that just feels intolerable to some people. (What would the children think?) People can say that they’re all about preserving marriage and raising children and defending religious freedom, but a lot of it really is about sex.

    I don’t know where anyone got the idea that because something is disgusting to me then that means I demand that it be illegal. I don’t like the idea of old, ugly, wrinkly people having sex, but that doesn’t give me the right to tell them not to. (I mean, older, uglier, and more wrinkly than me, which I admit is a declining percentage of the population….)

    • Joanna Schroeder says:

      When we decided not to sign our son up for Boy Scouts this year, as a little protest of their anti-gay policies, I told my friends why we weren’t going to do it.

      They just stared at me blankly. One goes, “I don’t talk to my kids about gay sex, so I don’t see why it matters.”

      I was like, “Huh? Who said anything about gay sex?” I mean, why does buttsex come into the conversation at all when talking about kicking 15 year-old boys out of a program they worked at for 10 years? It’s goofy.

      I explained it to my 7 and 5 year olds as how they know there are families with two moms, two dads, one mom, one dad or families with grandparents living with them and everything. I said, “when kids get older, they sometimes get a sense that they might want to someday marry a girl, or they might feel like they would like to grow up and marry a man, like them, and that in Boy Scouts, if a boy realizes he’d like to someday marry another man, they will tell him he can’t be a Boy Scout anymore” and my kids were horrified at the Boy Scouts.

      It’s only grown-ups that make everything about sex. To kids, everything is framed about families. The male ducks are “daddy ducks”, etc. It’s only as adults that we start to frame EVERYTHING around sex. Even in het culture. Think When Harry Met Sally.

      Okay I’ve gone on for a long time. Cutting myself off.

  3. The Wet One says:

    I still don’t understand why people care so much about how other people get their orgasms. It really is a strange preoccupation of people that I just don’t get.

  4. The problem of society regulating, what goes on in the bedrooms and in the minds is wider,it is not only about homophobia. Incest is still often illegal. Pedophiles are still seen as vile and digusting, while people who actually harm children by genital mutilation are seen as normal.
    Sexuality is still a public matter, unfortunately.

  5. AnonymousDog says:

    You think there is a generalized right to Privacy? Sorry, the ‘right to privacy’, as generally spoken of, was invented specifically for the purpose of striking down statutes regulating contraception. Try invoking a ‘right to privacy’ next time you get audited by the IRS. Your ‘right to privacy’ don’t mean s**t outside of the context of sex.
    You think liberals want everybody to be ‘equal’? only if you mean equally intruded on by government. Liberals have invented a special narrowed down vocabulary of “rights” which don’t get in the way of big government doing the things they think it should do. Yeah, liberals don’t mind you having gay sex because it doesn’t interfere with taxing and regulating. You’ve been had, sucker. Legalized sodomy is your reward for submitting to the Administrative State.your reward. Enjoy it while you work from New Years Day until mid-June to pay your taxes.

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