“The Answer is No” – The Case for “Baby, It’s Cold Outside

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  1. John Schtoll says:

    OR perhaps JUST PERHAPS, people are over analyzing the song , numberologists see patterns in number because “They want to see patterns in numbers”.

  2. wellokaythen says:

    I’ve always seen the song more of a kind of dance with a male lead. She expresses reluctance, and he creates excuses, but then they sing together. Both their roles sound kind of playful, actually. She seems to be saying “I ought to say no,” which is NOT the same thing as actually saying no. Maybe that’s just splitting hairs on my part, but it seems to be a real distinction. It’s not “No! Get off me!” it’s “my dad’s going to get mad if I stay.”

    But, to be fair, I can see a lot of lattitude in how the song can be sung or played out on a stage. It’s up to multiple interpretations depending on how you imagine the scenario.

  3. Martin Nash says:

    Isn’t this just social flirting?

    People do this in all walks of life. “Want another beer?”, “No, I should get home”, “Oh go on”, “okay then” – Sam ecould be applied to cakes, ciggies, anything really. I have used similar reasoning to convince male friends to stay for another beer and crash on my couch rather than drive home in the rain.

    People like to be “talked into” things, it makes them feel valued and wanted as they are worthy of persuasion.

  4. I love this song. I don’t enjoy the analysis though. The problem with our world is we simply think too much. I think the real difference between their time and ours is they just would not have thought about it. To me its a dance between too people.

    The other larger point is that all sexual relationships are all like this to some extent. There is always some negotiation, some back and forth. Its talked about as a power struggle. But that isn’t really fair. Its more of a negotiation with give and take.

    • both videos are disturbing, the way that both the male and female are physically aggressive and not respecting the other person’s boundaries at all. If a man grabbed me and pushed me back onto the couch or was in my face like that I’d get quite concerned and scared for my safety. he also continues to block her way which is concerning. even if he was my boyfriend and I knew him well I wouldn’t let him push me or grab my arm like that.
      the typical responses seen here from people who just don’t seem to get it

  5. Feminist deconstruction of old songs reminds me a little if this gem of a site:
    http://isthisfeminist.tumblr.com/

    Look, if context doesn’t matter, and the lyrics stand on their own, how is it germane that the parts were written for a mouse and a wolf? Also, wolves don’t eat mice.

    This is just as silly as calling the VJ-day kiss “rapey.” The people involved exchange Christmas cards; I doubt there was any lasting trauma there. I understand iconoclasm’s appeal, but if you just want to stamp “PROBLEMATIC” all over everything, you’re not really engaging in social criticism, you’re chomping out and throwin poo everywhere.

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