The Hasidic Community Covered Up My Abuse

Premium Membership, The Good Men Project

About xoJane, Jane Pratt's lifestyle site for women, is not about changing yourself to fit any mold of what others think you should be. It is about celebrating who you are. Like Sassy and Jane before it, is written by a group of women (and some token males) with strong voices, identities and opinions, many in direct opposition to each other, who are living what they are writing about.


  1. Thank you for sharing your story, Luzer. It is a shame that you were taken advantage of, and it is a shame that the Hasidic community seems to be unwilling to come together and collectively denounce this sort of behavior. I follow the court cases going on in NY, and I shudder at the denial and victim-blaming that goes on. Stay strong, and do not doubt your worthiness to be heard.

  2. Mervyn Kaufman says:

    This is an extraordinary story that must be told and disseminated. The Hasidic community, which shuts itself off effectively from the rest of the world, must be forced by law to open its doors and its books and to allow civil authorities to monitor and prosecute behavior that is unlawful and ultimately so destructive. No community and no faith can be above the law. Luzer’s story, which no doubt resonates among many7 thousands of sexually abused men and women, must be employed to help to bring down a system that distorts the teachings of God and defies the morality of Western culture. It is to be hoped that, by sharing his story and dealing with its impact, Luzer will ultimately find peace.

  3. This post took a lot of bravery. Here’s hoping for your further healing.

  4. Thank you for sharing your story.

    I must be very out of touch because I hadn’t heard a thing about the Weberman trial until now. Time to read up…

  5. “Shut up or we’ll kill you…!”

    What a gut-wrenching story…thank you for being so brave to open up and talk about it….

    Would the Hasidic religion/culture topple if all the victims were allowed to speak up?

  6. Carol Crocker says:

    I just read your story and I am so sorry that you’ve had to experience all of this. As a survivor myself I can appreciate your struggles. I only hope that you can find yourself a wonderful professional who can help you release your pain. We do have some wonderful people who have helped many of us with our healing process, but, researching is vital. You’ve come a long way and your strength is even more than you think, I bet. I am wishing you all the very best as you continue on your journey. You are never alone.
    Keep safe,

  7. Well done Strong Brother! A story well-told.

    Sub-cultures and sub-communities are, by definition, a body of isolation. We see such isolation being leveraged for open child sex abuse throughout the world.

    Harlem once had basically zero child sexual abuse cases. Why? Because in that cultural capsule, you don’t call the police on your community’s members. The same can be said for Native American Reservations (the epitome of isolation). You won’t really find such reported cases in the bayou lands.

    The monsters need solid and complete isolation to really work their evil with great impunity. Its been a key factor in nearly every case of long-term abuse where justice and protection has been denied.

  8. That’s one of the main problem with religions (every religion, it seems to me).

    Since every believer NEEDS to believe his religions is faultless (how can you have faith in something faulty?), they are not able to acknowledge faults inside their religion. They go into denial.
    Thus, every time something bad happens, they NEED to deny or blame someone else. Truth is just too much to handle for them; it would break their faith, their illusions, their lifestyle.

    The same is true for most groups (think Universities or sport teams), but religions are the worst case: because a religion is founded onto its being absolutely right.
    Hence, there’s no room for debate, doubts or acknowledging mistakes.


  1. Atheism soup says:

    “It was 1999, and I was 14 years old when I got a phone call at school from my…”…

    It was 1999, and I was 14 years old when I got a phone call at school from my mother. “Come home. We need to talk” is all she said. I was in trouble again. Some time had passed since me and David spoke. I changed schools, and we more or less fell out o…

Speak Your Mind