20 Things a Father Should Tell His Son

Dork Daddy’s recommendations apply to sons, fathers, men

1) Learn to dance with a partner. Nothing is classier than a man who can walk his partner onto the dance floor with confidence.

2) The only time it is appropriate to use your fists is to defend yourself from someone else using theirs on you.

3) Liberal arts grow your mind. Science and business keep you fed. You will need both.

4) That woman in that picture, or in that movie, or on that stage is someone’s sister/daughter. Treat her the way you would hope someone else would treat your sister/daughter if she was in the same position.

5) Learn to filter. Before you say anything, think about how the words you plan to use will sound in the ears of the person you are speaking to.

6) Learn to disagree with someone without taking personal offense – if for no reason other than the fact that you can’t expect something from someone that you aren’t able to deliver yourself.

7) Never let anyone do your thinking for you. There are far too many people with far too much invested in you believing what they believe.

8) Peer pressure is all about insecurity. Be confident in who you are and you won’t have to “fit in.” People will come to you.

9) Never relax when your spouse is doing chores. Though she may say it’s “okay”, you never want to be “that guy.”

10) Hold open the door, pull out the chair and give her your coat. Chivalry is not sexism. Hold open the door for anyone. Respect is not sexism.

11) Respect the woman you are with. No matter how badly you want to, don’t make your move until she tells you that it’s OK.

12) A real man knows crying is okay, but doesn’t overdo it.

13) There is no football game more important than a Sunday date with your wife.

14) Never lose sight of the fact that no matter how much you believe, no matter how convinced you may be that you are right — you might just be completely wrong.

15) Learn early to tie a tie.

16) Know your way around power tools.

17) You don’t have to like their music, but be able to identify Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin when you hear them. Again, classy.

18) People will judge you by how you look. It isn’t fair, but that’s the way the world works. Keep that in mind when you’re picking out your clothes in the morning.

19) Learn empathy. In all situations be able to put yourself in the position of the person you’re interacting with.

20) When picking a wife, you can never do better than your mother.

 If you liked this, check out its sister piece “20 Things The Same Father Tells His Daughter.

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During the work week the author is a mild-mannered dentist, but after work and on weekends he transforms into DORKDADDY!! When time allows he writes about raising two... wait, no three healthy, well-adjusted kids, while passing on a love of all things geek. His blog can be found at www.dorkdaddy.com


  1. Regarding #3, science doesn’t expand your mind? Please.

    • David J Chisnell says:

      I’ve never understood where that nonsense came from. In real life it always seems like people with science backgrounds come up with the most creative solutions because they spend time solving real problems where you can get objective feedback. (I’m the 3 millionth person say this but it’s still true that feedback is the key to learning).
      I think it comes from the classical college where liberal arts was a general degree in art and literature when most people were illiterate, by the time I went to school the liberal arts were very dogmatic, you had to support a certain set of socially liberal views. I can’t imagine those people thinking for themselves.

  2. 10, 11, and 20 are all good ingredients for creating a frustrated and bitter nice guy who sits on the sidelines while other guys have many relationships with women.

    • Let me tell you something about my boyfriend regarding no. 10 and 11.He was what many would call a “Casanova” or a “Don Juan”. But he did everything while respecting those rules. I think that if he could have many relationships while respecting those rules then everybody can.
      You may ask me how I know this. That’s because I was his friend for quite some time before being his girlfriend.
      Regarding no.20 I will never be his mother. I am his friend, his girlfriend, I may be his wife someday and/or the mother of our children but I will never be his mother.
      If you are asking yourself if he agrees with what I’m typing the answer is yes.

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