An online article highlighted supposed slurs against pregnant women’s bodies, and this dad saw red. He weighs in on the beauty he believes men see in their childbearing spouses.
—
Dear Cafe Mom “The Stir,”
This week you featured an eye popping article “What Men Really Think Of Pregnant Women’s Bodies” promising a no-holds barred look at what guys “really” think. You told women, “seriously be warned you might get angry.” You then had a smattering of “men’s opinions” with big bold anonymous quotes like “it hurts to look” at her, or pregnancy is OK if she doesn’t become an “amorphous blob,” or one who called pregnancy a turn off and said “since she’s already seeded up, you’re better off looking for sex elsewhere” or the one who said it’s disgusting “like taking a Porsche, destroying it with an axe, and exchanging it with a Dodge.”
Only a couple of your so-called “real men” had truly positive things to say. Here’s where I call total BS. While it might be a fun read, I think it is entirely inaccurate as to what MOST guys really think of their ladies.
You either made up some great sounding quotes in a boardroom or picked the most degenerate comments you could find. Either way, what might be great click bait for your page only accomplishes two things- making women angry at guys and diminishing the self esteem of women who are expecting.
Good fodder can often come at someone’s expense. For the record, I am not making this anonymously as the other “real men.” I think a pregnant woman can look glowing and graceful and magnificent. She can also look tired and in need of a foot rub and a great dessert. Sex can be challenging but interesting and entirely different than when your spouse isn’t pregnant.
Yes I think MOST men — not the mostly degenerate and chauvinistic made up quotes you found — really appreciate their women and what they are going through.
It IS incredible.
In closing, if you wanted quotes from REAL MEN, just ask some. We’re out there, not hiding behind anonymity and harsh seemingly made up click baiting headlines.
Originally appeared on Dadmissions.
Photo: Flickr/Daniela Mazzerino
The big difference of course is who the woman belongs to. The men who say nice things or try to be more diplomatic about their negative opinions are talking about their pregnant women, not women who are pregnant. The hypotheticals of the guys that are talking about pregnant women and not THEIR pregnant woman are more blunt and probably more genuine. Even in this article they call BS because men “real men” don’t say things like that about THEIR lady. not pregnant ladies, THEIR pregnant ladies. That “ownership” is going to change men’s opinions. (there are a lot of ugly… Read more »
Regarding the commenters, and the article as a whole.
How the ‘ell is it any concern of mine how a woman, with whom I have absolutely no form of relation, carry her pregnancy?
OP, are the men who made degrading comments about women’s pregnant bodies not real men then? How do we know that it was only “click bait”? Being over weight as a woman is considered a pretty bad offense by men. Men like tight little slick perfect bodies right? I am sure that there are many men who have nothing but favorable things to say about their partner’s pregnant body. But to deny that men have a tricky relationship with women’s bodies and their expectations around them isn’t fair. I appreciate this article’s attempt. But I have noticed a theme when… Read more »
Erin that’s my whole point… I call BS to the fact that you would put ten guys in a room to talk pregnancy.., Only a couple would say nice things.. and the rest would be Neanderthals saying the most hurtful things I’ve heard. I think they either make it up… or take only the worst of the worst of a very very broad sample.
Pete
Oh what a cruel comment. Ouch right in the nards! Not only does sex not hurt the baby but my wife’s OBGYN recommended sex near the due date as opposed to inducing labor. He said “The same thing that go you into this will get you out.” Apparently sperm induces labor late in a pregnancy. Who knew?
If you want to know what guys think about pregnant women’s bodies, don’t ask the guys who are married to them. You’d still get a range of opinions. I seem to recall that being a fetish for some. If you want to know whether pregnancy changes how sexually desirable a man finds his wife or girlfriend, then ask a married guy or someone with a pregnant girl friend. One of the things I’ve heard is that pregnancy often does change the way a man views his wife sexually. It’s not always because of how her body looks though. I suspect… Read more »
I’m with you Pete. I told my wife many times during her pregnancy how beautiful she looked, radiant, full of life. I don’t get what’s wrong with these guys. Maybe it was just a gathering of trolls.
yep or specifically picked trolls just to stir the pot