Four in ten households now have a mother who is the primary breadwinner: “Something is going terribly wrong in American society,” says Fox News
Dear Lou (Dobbs), Erick (Erickson), Juan (Williams), and Doug (Schoen):
I am writing you all this open letter after watching your riveting roundtable exchange via a linked clip online. Since viewing your discussion on the Pew Research Center findings, I cannot get it out of my head. I feel compelled to share with you my thoughts and to thank you for providing me with this ultimate wisdom.
First, I need to admit that I am a father that works. I am not a stay-at-home dad. However, I was able to find myself relating to your conversation because my wife also works and is the main breadwinner for our family. Unfortunately for our young daughter, her father was born with a penis. Because of my biological affliction, as you are all aware, I am inept at nurturing and raising her. Having a penis, it seems, is an unfair burden that I must, as a man, learn to bear.
“When you look at biology, look at the natural world, the roles of a male and female in society; in other animals the male typically is the dominant role, the female is not antithesis or is not competing; it’s a complementary role.”
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Not only do I suffer with a penis through the life of parenthood, but I also made a rather poor choice in a partner. She is a successful professional woman and, god forbid, a feminist. We rely upon daycare professionals to provide our daughter with the nurturing and love that I am unable to provide and that my wife refuses to give her, due to her professional status. In the end, I’m afraid our daughter will not fare well and I am even more ashamed that my family’s weakness, as you also were so brave to point out, will contribute to the “collapse of our social order” as Doug pointed out. I feel the need to apologize to my fellow citizens, as a good American, and make sure they know I am a victim in this. As Juan so bravely highlighted:
“What we are seeing with four out of ten families where the woman is the primary bread winner..we are seeing the disintegration of marriage, you are seeing men hard hit by the economic recession in ways that women weren’t, but you are seeing I think, systemically, larger than the political stories that we follow every day, something going terribly wrong in American society and it’s hurting our children.”
I didn’t want to be born with a penis. My wife just doesn’t know her place and unfortunately now, neither will our daughter.
I appreciate that this discussion finally has come full circle to where it really needed to be to begin with—on me as a victim in this situation. Frankly, working women have had it far too easy and I appreciate that they can now take some responsibility for their contributions to all that is bad in this world. Erick really hit the nail on the head when he said, “When you look at biology, look at the natural world, the roles of a male and female in society; in other animals the male typically is the dominant role, the female is not antithesis or is not competing; it’s a complementary role.” I blame Hitler. If he hadn’t started a war, then our grandmothers and mothers would not have had to [in the vacancy of men who were fighting wars and doing other things we were biologically meant to do] leave their homes and pretend for a while that they could do real work. It seems from that point on, women started to believe they could be equal in the workplace and suddenly became dissatisfied with what they were born and bred to do—have babies, do laundry, and satisfy their husbands. It’s due time that they accept responsibility for what this unnatural change in order has caused us—weaken and collapsed economies, war, poverty, inequity in education, the removal of God from society, the liberal media, and nearly the loss of the Twinkie (thankfully, that is making a return, I hear).
Finally, I want to commend your own personally bravery. I do not know any of you personally, but I do imagine that good, strong, virile men such as yourself most likely have children. It’s difficult than, on a national stage such as Fox News, to admit that you are bad parents. I applaud you for your courage and bravery for bringing the troubling affliction of a penis to our national consciousness when it comes to parenting. It’s not your fault or mine. We are men. It’s not what we are meant to do. In the same way that we know women are terrible leaders, money managers, soldiers, jar openers, presidents, and CEO’s [I mean look where their foolishness has gotten us thus far?]; we need to accept that we are bad parents, bad cooks, bad laundry doers, poor housekeepers, bad dress makers, and terrible foot massagers. That’s why God created us different, so we know our roles. Thank you again for reminding me of why it’s so good to be a Man (as long as I’m not parenting). It’s something that is easy to forget in our world today when everything seems to be fighting against me as a man.
Sincerely,
Andrew R Pollom
—for more on this, check out senior editor Joanna Schroeder’s take on if “society will fall apart if women out earn men.“
1) You are not a breadwinner if you receive state subsidies. 2) You are not a breadwinner if you make less than 60% of your household income. The key to being a breadwinner is “primary”. If your two income house is 32k and 35k, the 35k is not a breadwinner because it is not the primary source of income even if it is larger. It would be very useful to know a breakdown of male breadwinner, female breadwinner, dual income, state supported households tracked historically as it would provide better insight into changes in family dynamic, standard of living, quality… Read more »
That is ridiculous. There is nothing wrong with mothers having careers. It actually insults men. It is saying that men are too weak to marry a successful woman. There are plenty of happy kids that having working moms.
Fox really are an abomination of humanity.
“But recent changes in the economy, too, have played a part. Big job losses in manufacturing and construction, fields that used to provide high pay to a mostly male workforce, have lifted the relative earnings of married women, even among those in mid-level positions such as teachers, nurses or administrators. The jump in working women has been especially prominent among those who are mothers — from 37 percent in 1968 to 65 percent in 2011 — reflecting in part increases for those who went looking for jobs to lift sagging family income after the recent recession. At the same time,… Read more »
You make a good point, Newby. The role of fathers–the absence, or decline, or presence of them–in low income families especially needs to be addressed. It’s a critical issue feeding many problems. I would love to see Fox and any mainstream media explore this in a meaningful and penetrating way. But we’re still looking at 4 of 10 (the 37%rounded up) women in married couple households who are the main breadwinners. This is not a problem. The commentary is saying otherwise.
“Four in ten households now have a mother who is the primary breadwinner: “Something is going terribly wrong in American society,” says Fox News…”
And they’re right; that number should be FIVE in ten. Pick up the slack, women.