February 13th
Gawker
God, Thomas, You’re Such a Pussy
(in response to my NYT piece, “Man I Need a Good Cuddle”)
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February 13th
The Atlantic
On December 14, 2011, the site’s founder, Tom Matlack, published a piece called “Being a Dude Is a Good Thing” in which he argued that men and women were fundamentally different, and that women refused to “accept men for who they really are.” It wasn’t “ethically possible,”[Hugo] Schwyzer wrote on his site, “to remain silent while the site with which I am now best associated took an increasingly anti-feminist stance.”
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June 28
The Spearhead
… a site that has earned the nickname “The Good Mangina Project.”
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September 19th
Jezebel
In a phrase as garbled as it is instantly descriptive of a certain masculine mindset, Tom writes that most guys are struggling to figure out what “it means to be a man and to be good and to try to do things that are impossible despite the long odds.” … Men, writes Matlack, are filled with yearning: to talk, to be understood, to be accepted. Men, he suggests, have more emotional depth than we give them credit for having. What he doesn’t say is that guys today have so much less emotional resilience than we need them to possess. The contemporary female version of “male yearning” isn’t just ambition, it’s exhaustion.
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November 6th
The Amherst Student
Open letter by President Martin on the suicide note left by Trey Malone, which the Good Men Project published:
Since learning of his death early this summer, I have often thought about Trey. Unfortunately, I did not have the opportunity to meet or get to know him. In our brief conversation in December 2011, related to an appeal process, I offered him my sympathy for what had happened to him, asked whether he was getting adequate help, and sought to confirm his views on sanctions for the student who was found responsible for sexual misconduct. I recall being struck by the kindness in Trey’s voice.
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December 12th
Feministe
Unless the GMP is willing to show some major change (replace Matlack, ban MRAs, don’t publish pieces by admitted serial rapists), let’s avoid reading them. Let’s avoid reading anyone who cross-promotes with them. Let’s avoid reading their writers on any other websites. If they want to be MRA-ville, more power to ‘em. But they don’t get the cover of feminism or progressivism anymore.
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December 18th
The Guardian
Which is exactly why feminists get so angry when posts like the ones at the Good Men Project are published, or when people defend predatory men as ‘nice guys’.
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December 20
Huffington Post
All the talk about fathers will continue to feel that way—getting closer, but not there yet.
(Lisa Belkin’s column didn’t mention dads in her year-end summary of parenting for the first 11 items and then limped across with this insult causing me to get upset and engaging in a twitter and email conversation that came to naught)
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December 20th
Slate
It’s hard to believe the people at GMP could be naive enough to think that rapists are a good source for the unvarnished truth about rape. Which leaves us with the other explanation: That far from being a progressive website, GMP is now in the business of defending rape.
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December 28th
A Voice For Men
Tom Matlack created a feminist entity to correct his own broken sense of manhood. He is just too stubborn to allow them to do it, and too weak to send them packing.
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getting attacks and insult from both feminist and MRA it means you are on the right track. All great thinkers and changers where attacked and insulted, some even incarcerated and tortured.
Keep up the good work, and dont let yourself be scared by the conservationists 😀
If you’re annoying both Internet feminists and MRAs, then you must be doing something right 😉
couldn agree more….
hahaha, agree. GMP is not MRA’s site, and not feminist’s site. GMP is neutral site about manhood, that’s why its so rare and precious. I never found other site like GMP
I think Winston Churchill said it best. “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”
I’m grateful for what the Good Men Project is trying to do, one of which is creating a dialogue and a discourse about a number of issues that are far too often swept under the rug.
Love that Churchill quote Ovik. Thank you!
What I find “So” surprising is just how much negativity comes from such a small group. In particular, how can one person can do so much mud slinging alone? Anyone would think Tom knew them personally, had ruined prom night or maybe had a secret love child with them. Else, It gets quite Bunny Boiler!
It’s worse than not showing up at the prom – some of these topics can be articles of faith/ belief systems that form individual and group identities. That wonderful need for social connectedness can run amok under certain sets of circumstances and create a rigid barrier to further progress. The speed and fury of the internet does not help much either 🙂 It is a real pickle! Maybe you heard of Lapierre’s speech the other day – nothing new, the truth is self evident and cannot waiver and I’ve invested way too much into this belief system that I really… Read more »
“Free speech, with all its quirks, is one o four prized assets on this front, even though it too is susceptible, as an idea, to premature ejaculation, and why does pretty much everything eventually reduce to cum shots?”
That’s….a rather apt, if somewhat disturbing analogy.
And now I have some rather disturbing mental images of what Twitter resembles.
Makes you want to go and wash your iPhone.
On the question of outrage – how can we tell when we’ve gone too far and how then do we adjust our thinking? Well from personal observation, anyone who can consider the question is always walking a tight rope and wondering if they will fall. They tend to have balance and you see a lot of it here at GMP. It’s a actually a very positive and reassuring sign. Other wise the only way to deal with the Balance issue involves very large hammers, baseball bats and adjusting some people’s privilege levels with a 3 foot length of lead pipe.… Read more »
You know something just hit me about this outrage from Feministe: Unless the GMP is willing to show some major change (replace Matlack, ban MRAs, don’t publish pieces by admitted serial rapists), let’s avoid reading them. Let’s avoid reading anyone who cross-promotes with them. Let’s avoid reading their writers on any other websites. If they want to be MRA-ville, more power to ‘em. But they don’t get the cover of feminism or progressivism anymore. Since when is feminism the center all be all of progress and when it progressivism the center all be of changing gender roles? Seriously those folks… Read more »
I believe its one of the blessings of 2012, with all the transformation and upheaval going on in the world, that we have a place like GMP where we can talk passionately with each other about things that matter to us and the world. Thank you Tom, Lisa, and all the other writers and supporters of GMP that are willing to stick their necks out to speak truth from the heart. May the blessings of honest dialogue take us home and may we expand the dialogue to include more supporters and dissenters.
Thanks Jed.
Amen to that.
Those folks are just going to have to get over themselves. Actually its more of they have to get over the fact that they may not be the bleeding edge of gender discourse anymore. Maybe that’s it. Maybe they are simply jealous that GMP is taking the very lead in the gender discourse that they once held. Having such a prominent position is pretty important, especially when one wants to control the conversation to the point of exiling those that don’t tow the party line.
That was polite, referring to some people’s behaviour and attitude as “…Gender Discourse..”. Discourse means “any unit of connected speech or writing longer than a sentence. “. Maybe they are confused and think it reads Gender Discord and have been practising the wrong skill set?