5 Early Warning Signs You’re With a Narcissist

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About Dr. Craig Malkin

Dr. Craig Malkin is an author, clinical psychologist, and Instructor of Psychology for Harvard Medical School (HMS) with two decades of experience helping individuals, couples, and families. His unique, practical approach to helping people break out of painful romantic patterns combines an in-depth knowledge of the science of attraction with a broad, interdisciplinary understanding of how relationships work. He serves as president and director of YM Psychotherapy and Consultation, Inc., which provides psychotherapy and evidence-based couples workshops. He's also currently writing a self-help book designed to help people break bad romantic patterns.

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  1. I agree there are similar personality traits of a NPD and a socio path. Dealing with being book ended by a mother and sister who were both it has made my life more difficult. I have fought hard to get away from them both. As mentioned they both seem to have gotten away with much stuff. They both co enable one another and they both have at times usurped my identity (literally by stealing my identity, my trust funds, and my school funds and metaphorically ) what blows my mind is how they have gone about getting others on board to abuse me and convince others I am the problem. They have stole my identity but then pretended that I had no accomplishments both while stealing my educational back ground. My sister built her career on false documentations and she has got away with it! She even convinced the Prime Minister of Canada! She has even put people in jail and had families divided because she can come across as such an authority figure…she does not even have grade nine education!! By pubically saying this out loud I am putting myself in danger because she has people whom are co dependant and willing to do me harm for speaking the truth about her. I have had my house vandalized, she vandalize the property the day before my wedding, she has stolen from me, convinced people to beat me up, poisoned me, stole money and property from me, created lies about me, and all while convincing others I am the problem! The more I try to get away from her the more she obsesses and finds ways to get back into my life. She has even hired a private detective agency to follow me. Her main MO is to always find someone who is vulnerable and needy and will take a bribe to do her dirty work. This is one of the reasons it took me so long to figure her out. In addition she sucked me in with compassion and believing I could help her. The list goes on and on.

  2. Thanks for this. The article and the comments together are helping me make sense of a lot that had happened in my life, including right now. I feel like I’ve received better tools fory toolbox, permission to use them, and the realization that the permission comes from me. I feel for those still caught up in the more extreme nets of those who will go to any length to protect their world view. Persist, and know that you yourself are worth standing up for.

  3. David Wise says:

    Oops.

  4. And, sometimes, they’re your father or mother, and you find yourself lucky to have escaped them…even if the memories can still hurt you.

    Thank you for this.

  5. Beautifully written well done clearly explained!
    Thank you! As a child psychotherapist
    I have worked with a number of parents like this!
    This article gives parents a look into
    why it’s so important as parents to learn from a child therapist how to teach children emotional intelligence skills correctly. Knowing how you feel and being able to manage those feelings is important to success in life. It’s also the key to Prevention! Easier to prevent and very hard to cure!
    Even if you don’t have npd most of us were not taught healthy emotional intelligence skills and had to learn better coping methods as adults.
    So better to learn early from an expert!

  6. Sorta wished he had flushed out the paragraph on fragmented family history more; funnily enough it seemed a bit fragmented! Also, there are many with “non-normal” child histories who are not Narcissist. Further I have met folks who are clearly narcissist, but were not abused.

  7. This is spot on….

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