For any women who’ve ever been interested in dating a bodybuilder, here are some great reasons to consider doing so.
Imagine yourself entering the gym and deciding to lift some weights. As you take in your surroundings, breathing in that distinct scent of the weight room amongst the constant banging and clinking of weights, you start to take note of the diversity of the people around you.
Amongst the average gym-goers, you notice another kind of person in the area. He’s bigger in comparison to most people of the male gender that you know of.
His muscles are clearly defined and proportional, he has a lot of size but is also shaped in a kind of streamlined way and he lifts with an intensity that’s different from those around him.
His eyes are sharp and focused in between sets, and he uses his shoulders and posture to walk with a confidence and seriousness that makes others take notice. He’s definitely been coming here for a while.
At first you’re not sure what to think; perhaps you’re intrigued or even intimidated. You eventually find out that this person is a bodybuilder and super serious about lifting weights and manipulating his body’s aesthetic.
You find yourself wondering, what is the draw of having such simplistic desires involving something that requires so much hard work that is less than fun?
But there is more to a bodybuilder than just the weights. In fact, many bodybuilders will tell you that, as they journey through their bodybuilding lives, the things they do and learn along the way can be directly related and applied to many aspects of their lives.
One such aspect is the dating game. Many of you have probably never exclusively thought about dating a bodybuilder.
You may be into guys who are fit, muscular, lean, slender, etc., but haven’t necessarily considered dating someone on the basis that he has a bodybuilder’s mindset.
I’m here to give you five reasons why I think dating a bodybuilder is a good idea. Are you ready? Let’s do this:
They Enjoy Lifting And Moving Heavy Things
Have you ever had to move to another house or apartment? Do you ever find yourself wishing you had someone who would love to take all of your groceries in all at once? Well, having a bodybuilder in your life means that you have someone who will gladly do this for you.
If you’re in college and constantly moving your stuff from one dorm to the next, you have someone who wants to help you out with that.
If you travel often and hate bringing around heavy suitcases, you have a significant other who will gladly hold on to and carry them for you.
If you’ve ever had to deal with the frustration that is trying to fit a heavy couch through a small door during a move in to a new apartment (ugh), you know what I’m talking about here.
They Care About Their Bodies
The most important thing to a bodybuilder is obviously the way his body looks. A bodybuilder’s ultimate goal is to fully maximize the optimal aesthetic that his body is capable of producing.
When you date a bodybuilder, you are dating someone who is constantly trying to improve his physical appearance and will do whatever it takes to maintain it.
While I’m not trying to say that looks and physical appearance are the most important things in a relationship, they are still fairly important. Someone who doesn’t really care about his image, in my opinion, isn’t interested in wanting to be the best version of himself.
To me, it is your obligation to make yourself look the best you can for the person you like. You don’t want to communicate to this person that once you’re in a relationship, there is no need to look good anymore.
If you date a bodybuilder, you can rest assured that he will always do his best to attain and maintain the most optimal physique for both of you to enjoy.
They Care About Their Health (For the Most Part)
I’m not going to sit here and say that bodybuilding is necessarily an exclusively healthy thing. I think that’s a common misconception, especially if you’re talking about non-natural bodybuilding.
However, dedicated bodybuilders don’t go out on weekends and consume outrageous amounts of alcohol (which your body treats as poison), either.
They don’t eat out at chain restaurants or snack on foods that provide nearly zero nutritional benefit or purpose, don’t heavily flavor their food with salt, sugar and fats, and they practice portion control.
Bodybuilders want their bodies to function at peak physical performance so that they can have incredible workouts to facilitate maximal muscle gains and hypertrophy.
This means eating “clean” and (for the most part) healthy foods that aid in generating that optimal performance.
When you date someone like that, you are dating someone who is most likely at near peak physical health, and therefore able to perform many physical tasks at optimal performance without the fear of breaking down anytime soon.
They Are Willing To Do Things They Don’t Want To Do
Bodybuilders might tell you they enjoy working out for hours upon hours a day, lifting and putting stress on their bodies, while also only eating the most flavorless and disgusting foods of all time 24/7. But in reality, they understand that these things are a chore.
Despite this, they are willing to endure the pain, monotony and unwillingness to perform these tasks.
They can put their heads down and grind through the workload, stress and perhaps other issues they have going on to get a job done.
This is a valuable trait to have in someone you’re dating. If you date a bodybuilder, he knows how to deal with doing stuff he doesn’t want to do.
He will understand that sometimes doing the things we don’t want to do is, in the long run, best for all those involved, including you and your happiness.
They Are Devoted And Dedicated
If bodybuilders are okay with dedicating hours a day to lifting weights and eating food they don’t want to eat, then you can only imagine how dedicated they will be to something or someone they actually enjoy being around and care about.
When a bodybuilder puts his mind to something, he is all in, regardless of how much hard work and dedication it will demand.
Whatever extreme is necessary to make something work is the extreme to which a bodybuilder will take something.
Bodybuilding takes an unbelievable amount of dedication, devotion and consistency over an incredibly extended amount of time in order for someone to be successful at it.
Choosing to date a bodybuilder is choosing to date someone who is capable of giving you that same amount of dedication and devotion for a successful relationship.
Originally appeared at Elite Daily
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About the author: Jason Butler. Jason, or “Jtrain” as some affectionately call him, is an epidemiologist from Northern Virginia currently working in the Baltimore area. He enjoys bodybuilding and exercise and loves listening to niche musical genres (especially Scandinavian metal). He believes in giving everything your all, the power of one, and being a positive influence. Visit his blog at www.jtrainfitness.blogspot.com
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Great find. I find it amusing. Hipsbear also has a blog about bodybuilding and tinder http://hipsbear.com/bodybuilding-tinder-girls-really-want/
I like bodybuilders, I find them very attractive sexually, but I don’t see them as prospect for a long-term relationship. Having experience with some bodybuilders it is true that they make display of greater sex drive, but many of them, if not most of them, are totally absorbed by the activity and many times you have to relegate yourself to a second place yourself to satisfy the needs of the muscle man. It isn’t a nice feeling when you see them so obsessed with their looks. My experience is with heavy and super heavyweight bodybuilders. Achieving such unnatural size absorbes… Read more »
Why do people insist in portraying bodybuilder s exclusively heterosexuals? No, there are tons of them, tons of them who are homsoexuals and bisexuals who ae also looking for a boyfriend of the same sex who also think they can be the perfect boufriend despite their self-absorbing activity as is bodybuilding.
They also need visibility.
Why on earth are you assuming heterosexuality amongst men who are into bodybuilding? I know women tend to have conniption fits over the very thought that men *they* are attracted to are not actually interested in *them*, but come and spend a few days at my local gymnasia in Los Angeles and you’d all be in for a much-needed shock to your heteronormative world-view.
Some reasonable points, but this is all provided your bodybuilder is not a narcissist, which it must be said, is a serious occupational or avocational hazard.
This is such BS. How bout you talk about the dark side of bodybuilding like steroids and human growth hormone. How bodybuilders don’t like to miss a day at the gym to spend time with their girlfriends. How they are conceited and love the attention they receive from people. Thanks for the laugh while reading this article. It is such a joke.
The time it would take me to appreciate that “His muscles are clearly defined and proportional, he has a lot of size but is also shaped in a kind of streamlined way and he lifts with an intensity that’s different from those around him,” would mean I’d have to stare.
I’m not comfortable with men staring at me, so I don’t stare at them.
If I do notice a body builder, it’s because of how inflexible their bodies are, and prompts me to believe that could limit bedroom activities. Maybe heavier women than me would disagree.
If this is serious then it has got to be the most subjective, non-political article I have ever read. Absolutely none of that has anything to do with being emotionally available, or empathy or anything you might look for in a mate. Bodybuilding is a hobby, dude. Like video games, reading, and wave surfing you can do it while being the shittyest boyfriend alive.
Is this a joke?
Yes all that is true. However there is one big drawback…the amount of time they spend in the gym. It is almost a must that the woman has to be into the sport as well.
Correlation versus causation. You’re positing the theory that bodybuilders have these traits because they’re bodybuilders (causation). Meanwhile, not all bodybuilders really have these traits, although some do (correlation). Separately, in my anecdotal experience, having been married to a bodybuilder for several years and spending lots of hours around serious bodybuilders in the gym, most of your ‘advantages’ are not the norm. I sincerely hope these describe you (the author), as they are positive attributes. Although the “carry heavy things for you” is pretty silly. In my experience, the several bodybuilders I knew (30+) were into it for body image, drank… Read more »
Ditto on the “into it for body image, drank alcohol heavily, and were pretty shallow, self-absorbed people.” That describes my association with bodybuilders as well.
Same thing could easily be said for men of faith. They enjoy lifting and moving heavy things for people who need help. For example, guys that do morning PADS and have to convert the shelter back to a community room hustle to move as many as 25 tables and couple hundred chairs back to the floor. Also means washing down as many as 70 mattresses and place them back in storage. They care about their bodies in that we’re taught that health – 1 Corinthians 6:19 Willing to do things they don’t want to do – Volunteering takes a lot… Read more »
Amen
Nice try..but no thanks. As a Gay man..I’m tired of meeting “good men” of faith who say they are living a good life and are good people..and then proceed to tell me how wrong I am for “choosing the gay lifestyle” and how I need to change. I don’t even bother anymore trying to educate them and inform them that not only is being Gay a natural sexual variance as evidenced by the fact Homosexuality exists in ALL animal species..but that nobody would willingly choose being Gay knowing there is so much prejudice out there..and mainly from religious folks. Maybe… Read more »