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There is a large movement pushing to ensure the emotional needs of boys are met. There are books being written and films being shot all in the name of “save our boys.” This, of course, is not to negate the concerns of girls, but instead to make sure we aren’t missing anyone. Face it, healthy boys plus healthy girls equal a healthy world. Isn’t what we all want? Aren’t you tired of seeing young males on drugs, incarcerated, in abusive relationships, emotionally and financially bankrupt? I certainly am. All children should have the tools to get through life. Using positive reinforcement can help as your son develops the skills needed to succeed.
Here are 5 things you must never stop saying to your son (or daughter) to help keep their self-confidence levels up. This is an important feat especially in the state of the world today.
- You are good enough. Make sure your son always knows he is just as good/great as the next kid
- No matter what 50% you’re working with (your mom or dad’s genes) they are equally as important
- You have the same rights to your feelings as anyone else
- I love you—unconditionally
- I’m proud of you
It’s not such a simple task bringing up children; however, every little step in the right direction helps. Every kind word helps. Every bit of love and forgiveness you can muster for the sake of your kids will make a difference whether they are your biological children, adopted children, grandchildren, neieces/nephews, foster children or even patients if you are a doctor.
Teach kids to forgive and you teach them in the long run to love. The opposite does nothing more than show them that being unloving and unforgiving are acceptable. The world can be cold, and some people won’t stop to give your kid a second chance. This is a lot of pressure for kids to be under just like parents. What helps me the most with my own kids is knowing they will make mistakes and that does not make them bad people, it simply makes them human. And emotional intelligence starts with recognizing another person’s humanity so they can recognize it in themselves.
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Ma’am: What makes you a professional as to working with Fathers and Sons? More as to raising boys? I do not understand your ability to be a male life coach. I hope I am not reading into your credentials incorrectly. Nevertheless, a female cannot speak on what a man should do when grooming his son. Do you agree? If not, what scientific proof do you have to compel your thoughts? Please keep the information after five years of age.
Dear A. Thanks for your comment. I’m the mom to two young men. My practice involves my male advisory committee of 5 men who I work with regularly to ensure I am working in the direction I should be regarding the males I work with. I never tell men how to be men or men how to teach boys to be men. I simply help them figure out how to make the things happen that they decide they want to do. I am however an emotional intelligence coach and understand through my practice, leadership, mentoring with boys and men that… Read more »
Nice five reasons to say to the boys.