7 Things Men Want In A Relationship

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Jordan Gray says that there are seven simple things that basically all men crave in an intimate relationship.

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Men are often reluctant to talk about their needs in intimate relationships.

Whether social conditioning or an inability to communicate our needs are to blame, men (who tend to be the less communicative partners in intimate relationships) are prone to silently suffering when their emotional needs aren’t being met by their partners.

Whether you are a man or a woman reading this article, this will give you greater clarity into yourself/partner and what your/their needs are in your intimate relationship.

Let’s put an end to the needless fighting due to miscommunication, the unnecessary sex-less nights, and the verbal shut-downs.

Read through these tips and I promise you’ll never see your relationship through the same lens again.

Here are seven things men want in a relationship.

1. Praise And Approval

Men have infamously tender egos.

We like frequent reassurance about ourselves, our career paths, our efficacy as partners, our sexual prowess, and our attractiveness (among other things).

I have countless male clients telling me every month that their partners rarely let them know what they like about them.

While it may be true that men need relatively less frequent verbal praise than their female counterparts, this isn’t the kind of gesture that requires keeping score. Why not just have more of a good thing?

So ladies, let your praise loose. Tell your man exactly what you find attractive about him. Let him know what physical features of his are your favourites. Tell him how attractive you find it when he says something a certain way, when he accomplishes something, or when he takes you on a date. Your praise won’t make him cocky; it will help him feel loved.

And (bonus) the more you praise his positives, the more you will see them.

2. Respect

Men feel respect as love.

If he feels like you disapprove of him, his career, or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and loving you.

The thought process behind that being “If she doesn’t respect who I am at my core, then how can she really want what is best for me?”

If a man’s partner doesn’t respect his path or mission in life, then he will find it very difficult to feel anything other than an anxious need to distance himself from her.

3. A Sense Of Sexual Connection

Men and women both connect through sex and communication, but generally, women connect better through verbal communication and men connect better through sex.

Does this mean that men need to have sex with their intimate partners every day in order to feel connected? Not at all.

Men, more often than not, connect through indicators of sexuality just as much as they do through sex.

Allow me to explain…

Often, a man will initiate sex just to make sure that you are still sexually available to him. So, to my man-loving readers out there, if he reaches across the bed for you, even showing the willingness to embrace him, to kiss him deeply, and to engage him could be enough to make him feel loved (not that the follow through isn’t enjoyable).

This lack of awareness around women needing to connect through words and men needing to connect through sex can sometimes turn into an unfortunate and rapid downward spiral. She doesn’t feel like opening sexually until she feels connected to him, but he finds it difficult to communicate with her because they haven’t been physical with each other in days.

Talk with your partner and ask what specifically helps them feel the most loved so you can avoid these unintentional standoffs.

Next: “A New Kind of Intimacy”

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About Jordan Gray

Sex and relationship coach Jordan Gray helps people remove their emotional blocks and maintain thriving intimate relationships. When he's not coaching clients or writing new books, Jordan loves to pretend he's good at surfing, immerse himself in new cultures, and savour slow-motion hang outs with his closest companions. You can see more of his writing at JordanGrayConsulting.com

Comments

  1. Hmm,this is a good one,but my partner of two months will be coming back from his base next month and he’s been talking about how deep he wanna go and I don’t want sex yet,have worked so hard for over two are now keeping myself from having sex and then I met this guy and he’s the kinda of man I have been pray in for,what do I do or say to make him understand that I want to wait till my wedding night without hurting his emotion?

  2. Samlia Nicole says:

    Thanx for this.im into a broken relationship.we are married wid two kids.we are separated nw over a year.he asked me to work things out together but we agreed not to live in one house.we started dating again.we met at d hotel and slept.seems like gf-bf.but i discovered he still have lots of flings so i decided to disconnect with him.he asked me to give him a year to settle everything but it seems like i find it unreasonable.if he wants to have us back,he has to end up all d relationships dat he had.recently i found out he hasnt change.he is still into having flings.after reading this,i realized its me who had made him to change,to be away from us.all the things nentioned here are true.i had been an unsupportive,jealous and nagging wife.what will i do?i want our family to be whole again but if he cant be changed,i think it would be impossible.will i give him d chance to settle things for a year as what he said?hope to hear frm you soon

    • Hi samlia, i agree that you also had a fair share of whats going on in your relationship( that’s normal) but its not fair to blame yourself for being jealous and nagging wife…he gave reasons for you to become one.as a couple , you talk things out not find outside relationships. Both should honor the vows. If he wants a family then he should cut all ties at once not with in a year (it sounds like you’re a rebound).if he cheated once then he deserve a second chance but if he had committed the same mistake then I suggest you value yourself and your kids. Its time to move on. You are a strong woman and you are empowered . Continue praying and Godbless

  3. I thought I’d echo someone’s comment about how a man exposing his feelings can backfire against him. I’ve been told I’m sensitive, but I’ve also been told I’m passionate. Can’t these be one and the same? I can just as easily put my fist through a wall as I can write a poem. Is that sensitivity, or me being in touch with my feelings too much?

  4. I think i agree with what Alex says. Purity is important and men do like that in women but its about respect for yourself and your body. Until recently i was a believer that sex and intimacy go hand in hand until i met an amazing man that has shown me otherwise and i feel closer and more intimate with him then i have any of my previous boyfriends or sexual partners. I am not religious although i think Alex you may be after your comment on committing a sin. Love and loving someone through sex is not a sin again its about respect for each other and i think by not just jumping straight into a sexual relationship you do build a respect, understanding, and actually know that person before you do share yourself sexually with them. I think sexual connection isn’t necessarily about having sex its about that mutual love and want of each other it’s about hugging them randomly just because you want to feel their arms around you its kissing when you see them after a long day at work its sharing yourself personally and emotionally honestly it’s looking at them and seeing the most radiant person who makes you smile always all of these things make the act of sex such a beautiful thing to share with someone you love.

  5. Hi I have been dating someone for around two months , is love to apply this article but he doesn’t want to be I. A relationship that’s what he said , we do a lot of things that couples Do so that make me be confused , he said he can’t see a future together ( let’s say 2-3 years) I really
    Like him and I think we have so much in common , another issue or maybe it isn’t is that he never had a girlfriend before , he is 25 years old

    • I couldn’t finish to post , I really like this man is there anything I can do to get closer to each other ?

    • It sounds like he was direct and clear that he’s not looking for a relationship. And if you’re his first girlfriend then he has no experience and most people want at least a handful of experiences before the settle on one person. I don’t know where you’re both at now and if you’re still together.

  6. Actually. The fallacy of most of this is that mens perceptions are no longer from the ancient base of Nature. Men are now programed by TV, media, religion and socual structure….
    your studies are faulty first because you do not show how a man is naturally. Only after being a product of the system. Most of these things you have writen can easily be argued by … Men may want these things, but it doest not mean they know how to live them when they get them….
    nor can they know how to accept them…

  7. Alex, thank you for your comments. Your parents raised a wonderful son who is going to make some woman a very blessed woman someday if you haven’t already. Take care and stay sweet. You are loved.

  8. @Alex, thank you for showing how endlessly dumb religion is

    @Jennifer, there are 7 billion people, of course this won’t fit perfectly on everyone. “A rule is defined by its exceptions”. Whitout putting numbers on this, basically you are sayibg if just 1% diverts, its totally wrong. about time t
    you learn about probability, and that generalizing does not mean all or nothing, but that a pattern is spottet.

  9. I really hate these unniversals. I am female, involved with a guy and much of the above is the exact opposite for us. He has to feel connected to want to have sex and I need sex to feel connected. People sre much more diverse ( and interesting) than these one size fits all articles.

    • You’re in the minority and in the rare exception. People don’t speak about the exceptions, they speak in generalities of what it tends to be.

  10. I concur to this and I say I am on the right track. In return, I still have him as good as new.

  11. My response to Item #3:
    If a man really loves a woman, he will wait for her. Not only that, he will wait with her, because he has the same value and will focus on guarding her purity as well as his own. Purity never ruins loving relationships. If the relationship is based on lust, purity will end it. But if the relationship is based on love, purity will save it.
    To men: Just because he is your girlfriend doesn’t give you a license to own her body. A woman’s body is not like a car to be test-driven. Her body is meant to be respected. If you really love her, you will not lead her into sin. While still in a relationship, practice self-control, patience, and sacrifice; the same virtues that will make your marriage last.
    To women: Don’t believe that for you to keep a man, you have to give him something sexual. If a man is won over by a body, then it’s the body that he stays for. Respect your body. The right man will not look at you with lust and indifference but with awe and wonder for your inner beauty and lovely spirit.

    • Sigh… Alex, it would be more honest if you would preface your well meaning comments with “in the christian cult”.

    • Alex, I like what you say about the female body and respect and patience and all that. I think a lot of younger women who have self-esteem issues will have sex in the hope (thought) that it will bond them to the man – make them fall in love with them. This is a generalisation, of course. i’m not saying all younger women are like that, and there will be older women who feel this way.

      I also think that long-term relationships DO require patience, self-control and some sacrifice (to a point – even small things like not watching a movie or programme so your partner can watch something! Compromise). And i agree that these are some important things (along with others) that make a relationship – marriage or not.

      I didn’t like reading the negative comment that followed your words. You didn’t mention Christianity at all, though I understand why the person who responded may have read religion in to your words. That said, there is no need for them to be rude, which they were. You used ‘purity’. I have known some men for whom a sense of ‘purity’ is very important, and not in a religious context.

      I pity the haters!

      Regarding the feature; I do think that most of the points are valid and true. And that they can apply to both sexes, and won’t apply to some. Some people need to lighten up and take this sort of article at face value. There are far, far larger and more important issues to rally against than articles like this.

    • Hi Alex, what nationality are you? Are you single?

  12. women shoudnt get the full ‘feel-like-ah-boss’ respect as men does. if youre a woman and you want to get that respect… well, i’ll tell you that you better die now, go to heaven, ask the CREATOR to make you a man in your second return on earth. lolss. sounds soo funny when i notice that you as woman wants to be given the men seat…..[gosh!!] fuck u!!!!

  13. According to an old quote “Human Wants Are Unlimited”; therefore in every relationship we have found that people are expecting something more from their partners. But according to experts especially men are expecting something more from the opposite sex. And this is the main reason for any kind of break ups; therefore we need to understand the feelings and emotions of our partner and puts a little control over our demands. I hope the instructions provided in this article are quite beneficial for us and we should take some good lesson in order to protect our relationship.

  14. Nice in theory, but sometimes unrealistic. What I find most interesting, and struggle with the most, is the ability to regain one of these 7 things after they are broke.

  15. I really appreciated that you included that men desire emotional intimacy. You are right in saying that men open up to this slowly. Even in our “accept all” western culture it is still frowned upon for men to be in touch with how they feel.
    We, at Attraction Body Language, teach women how to read a man’s emotions through his body language. This can be a very helpful tool for a woman to relate with a man before he has decided to open up and be a bit more vulnerable with her.
    Thanks for your thought provoking article! I will keep an eye out for more like it.

  16. What about taking sex out of the equation all together until marriage? It is still possible to develop a loving relationship without cheating your body with someone who you may or may not spend the rest of your life with. Until you have said your vows, then and only then should living together and sex be included in this paradigm. This world has lost its moral foundation.

  17. I gave my husband space and he cheated on me. So that trust is gone and broken. He calls me crazy and psycho when I question where he is or why he’s late from work. Given our history, I feel I’m justified in askig these questions and thinking worst case scenario. He blocked me on Facebook and locked me out of his phone and laptop. So yes men need space and need to feel respected, however sometimes that space is taken advantage of and then my respect is gone.

  18. Thank you for this article. I have been researching all I can about how to fulfill and support my husband of 6 months. I thought our repationship was strong… An open book. I recently discovered porn use and masturbation on his part. It has set me off balance. I am trying to deal with my feelings and be his support at the same time. It is taking so much out of me and my confidence is gone. I love this Man, I know he loves me. He is wonderful to me, to my children, a great guy. Porn and masturbating however are not acceptable to me in a Christian marriage. When I found out, I realized I hadn’t even asked him how he felt about this. I would have never dreamed it was an issue. The “red flags” were not there. Everything I read talks about men not wanting their wives and getting angry. Thats not the case with us. I told him how I feel about it. I apologized for not discussing it before our vows and I tried to get him to open up to me about how he feels about it. While he didn’t open up about it, he did say that he has to “fix it” that I am more important. That said, he is still doing it. He has even lied to me and said he isn’t right after doing it. I think I need help knowing how to help him heal and to stop obsessing over this! Do you have advice?

    • It sounds like you two won’t stand a chance. Most men engage in porn and masturbating, you’ll need to face reality with that. What will likely happen if he doesn’t ultimately leave you is that denying him that will lead him to tell you he’s stopped, but instead he’ll just be sneaking it around you, and may even cheat. You don’t understand men at all. Good luck!

  19. Thanks for such a wonderful article. I appreciate what is written. Somewhere now i am happy because this all things will help me to understand my spouse well. Now i am understanding his hidden nature. And felling unhappy because he is far and i cannot show i much he mean for me.

  20. I totally disagree with numbers 2&5. Respect is there but, why would say that it’s his path/career/mission, when you know that it leads to no good? It’s really annoying that some men always think that women can’t decide for their men because it’s his life or whatsoever. If you’re really into that relationship, you should both respect each others opinion/decision. What if the man’s life is going nowhere? Should we even just stare at him or ignore it because he needs respect?

    Talking about space, both partners needs this. Not only men. Some of you might think that space is essensial in a relationship. Well maybe, yes. But, try to imagine giving your partner space, and then when he comes back, is he still the same person?

    • It doesn’t matter if you think his personal path/career/mission is no good. It’s not about you! It’s his life and this is what he wants. If you can’t respect or support that, then he’ll likely leave you. If he’s smart anyway.

  21. This is a really good article. But it just makes me feel bad that I cant give what my man really needs cause we are in a long distance relationship.

    • Long distance relationship never work. Its better to stay together. If someone is in defense service then no issue. But working in a private firm and staying far with each other will never help in building loving relation.

    • Long distance relationships rarely work. The exception is if one or the both of you plan to move to the same city as one another.

  22. I love this. I know alot of women don’t think to be there for a man but it is something I do naturally for a man I truly care for, as I would want the same. I am dating a military man with ptsd and ALLL of the factors in this article come into play greatly. Somedays he will need his space to himself and some days all he needs is to be told he’s cared for, respected, supported and I tell him how handsome he is as well. Very good read! Thank you

  23. Thank you for your thoughts, Jordan! You definitely hit the button. This so true. I have a boyfriend for 13 years and #5 has always been our problem. This is an eye opener for me. You are awesome!

    • Jordan Gray says:

      Thank you Jill! So glad you enjoyed the post 🙂

      • I find it … terribly interesting reading which comments you’re responding to and which you choose to … basically ignore.

        What about the woman who mentioned that this sounds like an awful lot of work – which it does – with no mention whatsoever of what men are giving to the relationship in return, or what’s in it for the woman who puts in all this work?

        What do you have to say to the woman upthread who mentioned that it’s happened to her at least 4 or 5 times – so we’re not talking about an isolated incident here – that when she praised a man and built up his ego the way you suggested that she do, the man subsequently left her for someone else?

  24. Why not just each person to their own relationship and learn what each other wants? I’ve been a relationship that is very different than this. He does not want independence and time apart. If he wants to browse the web he’d rather I sit and read a book on the bed with him. He also doesn’t connect with sex. Some men and just people in general don’t have a high sex drive. He doesn’t. And maybe one a week will want to. Even if I initiate it he will usually only respond once or twice in a week. I can’t help but feel this article places some type of responsibility on women to make sure he is having enough sex in the relationship. When it’s both people’s mood or preference and some like mine, don’t need sex. So it would be nice if this article said “some men”, not placing this on all men. Everybody is different :]

  25. Respect and security are very important for a relationship. It can strengthen the weakness between both.

  26. I have done the ‘praising and appreciation’ and unfortunately in 99% of cases the effect it had was that the man’s self esteem grew so much that he simply left me thinking he was too good for me since I believed he is so awesome.
    I am not talking here about a one of case but at least 4-5 people I happened to date longer term.

  27. maraani pacana says:

    Hi jordan,
    I totally need your advice. Im in LDR and having hard time adjusting. I think he’s fed-up with my too much jealousy. How can i make it up to him?…i really wanted to save the relationship…please i’d be glad to hear from you…although i have basis for my jealousy but when i read this article it sounds like i need to do the first move to save our relationship…thnx!

  28. Ms Demeanor says:

    Sounds like too much hard work!

  29. The points are good but pretty superficial and biased. The question of Respect is not defined in any meaningful detail. Both articles, the one on women, too, assert premises that actually undermine respect of men and responsibility for women, which are at the root of conflicts between men and women and a huge blind spot that is common.

    The premise of the women’s article is that men are not able to penetrate their woman, a David Deida idea, and he is now commonly perceived as holding men too responsible, not equally with women.

    This article starts with the premise that men are the problem with their lack of communication. Maybe men don’t want to communicate much when the terms of discussion are about what men fail to do. Men are more often taking the blame for what goes wrong. Female points of view dominate gender and relationships discourse. Most people can’t see that because they have no idea what real male and equalist pov really is. I have written about it a lot and know many of the other authors.

    In this equation, women are as victims. “The problem with women is men” is a very popular book and approach to dating. People eat that shit up. But you could never say the problem with men is women. Retaliation would be swift and severe. There is a belief in female moral superiority, that women often claim in relationships and can easily out talk men or manipulate with anger or moods, however subtly. This is very common, not all relationships.

    When seen as victims, women are also disrespected because they are not seen as the equal responsible adults that they are.

  30. Dear Frank, you make valid points and are understood, however, the point is to keep, maintain and replenish “the gloss” that has withered.

  31. Great points, but they also have to be OPEN to receiving it. Not everyone is at the same place as their partner (or potential partner).

  32. 3. I need sex more than my man and I usually use sex as a way to intimacy. My BF doesn’t want it was much as me and sometimes it can be frustrating!

    • thanks for your comments. I was beginning to think it was only me in this situation!!

    • Denis Stone says:

      Have been with women who wanted more sex than me. That is also frustrating for us. We wanted to be in the mood more often but that just doesn’t happen. But we can’t also force ourselves to do it when not in the mood; many times the system will not work (so to speak) and we can pretty much feel like a tool. Also, I believe most women wouldn’t actually want their men to have sex when they are not very willing to, as it feels like you are using someone, unlike many men who would still want and feel it is okay if their women have sex unwillingly (but with consent, of course). Seems like women care much more about men’s pleasure (have had sex when not in the mood, because I forced myself to, and no orgasms there for me) or overall feelings about sex and intimacy.

      • Jimmy Jamz says:

        I don’t know where you get the assumption that men are A-OK with an unwilling partner, it doesn’t feel right if she’s just going through the motions, it’s not okay at all!

        • Denis Stone says:

          Not “men’, just more men are ok with that, in general. You can see evidence when men talk about lack of sex and how they wish women would just do it even if she is not in the mood to please them. Some of them even mention women could just use lub so they can penetrate them and have their own selfish fun, without taking into consideration that vaginas do not work like that… vaginas, when aroused, not only produce natural lub but also expands a little so it won’t hurt… or maybe these guys know about that and just don’t care about hurting their women, which is actually disturbing.
          You can find many men saying that is all fine when women have sex when not in the mood (and assume most men are okay with that) here in this site.

          • Denis Stone,
            I think that most people on this site talking about “sex when not in the mood”, are talking about the circumstances of “helping to release” their partner in the form of handjobs, oral sex, etc.
            Of course there’s also the kind of people you mention, , but I find them to usually be a very small minority, especially on this site.

            • Denis Stone says:

              Yes, these people who love demanding handjobs, oral sex, etc. all the time/many times they are in need but their partners are not in the mood are also pathetic. Whatever happened to sex being mutual and masturbation.

            • FlyingKal says:

              Helping is not demanding. But if that’s the way you feel about the subject, feel free to do so.

            • Denis Stone says:

              That is why I never said helping is demanding. Of course I know both are different things, I am, you know, adult enough to know these things.
              But I know many people demand, many men pressure. And they feel literally angry when turned down. And to be even more ridiculous, they won’t reciprocate when their women want something… the regular sex is already all about their own masculine pleasure and these “little sexual services” are only for them, never for their women, too. I’m still to know about a woman receiving oral sex or handjobs from their (male) partners out of compassion and love when their men don’t feel in the mood. Sure, I know they also probably won’t ask for it, as they are emotionally intelligent enough to know it sucks for most people to engage in anything sexual when you are not in the mood. Sucks being a straight woman in general, I see.

            • You, as an adult, just switch subject on the go then…?

              I wouldn’t know about giving oral sex or handjobs to a woman when not in the mood, because just her asking for it would probably put me in the mood.
              I do know however alot about giving to a woman without expecting to be repaid just then and there, because that’s happened a lot of times when there was a shortage of time.

  33. I find that when a man reveals his feelings too often, women sometimes use that against him in some form. There seems to be a double standard that if you show too much emotion, you run the risk of being rejected later on.

    Angelguy

  34. what about when a woman wants love sex intimacy and he doesnt and it prolonged he is tired run down or cant be bothered. geniune question.

    • then, generic answer, he’s most probably getting “it” somewhere else…

    • I don’t think it means he’s getting it from somewhere else. Some men are so shut down that they even lose sight of their own sexuality. It’s extremely sad and hurtful for all parties involved.

  35. what about when you want love and sex and intimacy and he doesnt and it is prolonged. he is too tired or run down or just cannot be bothered please answer me that. genuine comment and question.

  36. This year, I left an extremely unhealthy relationship wherein I was never able to make my partner feel secure because of his lack of trust for me (which was rooted in his cognizance of his own untrustworthiness, unbeknownst to me for much of the relationship). This impacted our emotional intimacy. It also made it difficult for me to respect him–a fact I did not broadcast, but which he was cognizant of before I was. His trust issues, and the experiences that created them, drove the man to drink and engage in all kinds of manic and insecure behavior, which I did not, of course, approve of. Seeing the effects of my ex’s trust issues, I saw a seemingly “fixable” problem snowball before our eyes.

    In my current relationship, all of these things came so naturally because I was with a partner who was as transparent, trusting and trustworthy as I am. The difference in dynamics was night and day. It is so easy.

    I say all that to say this: a dishonest man precludes himself from gaining these things from his partner, no matter how much he wants them or the partner wants to give them. It’s sad because these sorts of people usually need these things most.

  37. Pretty good list.
    I would like to add the following to #6, regarding physical touch.
    Do not use physical touch as an attention-getter for emotional issues, complaints, or just frequent venting about your job, co-workers, relatives, etc.

  38. Hi Jordan, I really like your article, and I will share it with some of my clients.

    Thank you for it.

  39. When it’s women who like to be complimented or praised, do you also refer to it as having “infamously tender egos?” I don’t think so! I remember another GMP article with a list about how to treat women or something to that effect and it mentioned complimenting her and telling her you love her. I don’t remember seeing anything about women’s egos. Why can’t a website that is purportedly for men incapable of writing an article about men without injecting backhanded slights??? Very weird!!! I guess this website is just a microcosm and reflection of the broader society’s attitude of praising women and recognizing their needs whilst dismissing those of men.

    • Yes Amy, This article has a more female centric point of view and holds men more accountable, than it does women.

    • wellokaythen says:

      Amen to that. Once again an article suggests that men don’t really have feelings, they have egos. Perhaps what people brand as “ego” is actually (ohmygosh no!) feelings? Men may actually have legitimate feelings. I know, it’s a shocker, but it could actually be the case….

      And maybe hurting men’s egos is actually (no! can’t be!) hurting men.

  40. I feel like this list is a tad cliche and conforms to normative ideas about gender roles in heterosexual relationships. That being said there are some great points made here! I’m usually not very complimentary towards men but i recently met a guy who i have been rather complimentary towards! I feel like it gives me away but perhaps that isn’t such a bad thing. With the sex vs talking i think that women most definitely connect through sex but if communication is lacking then it’s hard to have such a great connection.

  41. Good article, but I disagree with number 5 , not all men need that space apart , I have known Women who need that Space in relationships.

    My Partner and I spend as much time as we can together, she an I look forward to the evenings and weekends when we can do things together.

    • Jordan Gray says:

      Makes sense to me! Thanks for the comment Dane.

      Just like anything to do with personality or relationships, nothing will ever apply to every person (or every couple) 100% of the time. Glad to hear that you and your partner have similar needs when it comes to togetherness 🙂

      • Jordan,
        Thank you so very much for helping us (those who never, despite of our intellect, education level, or looks) could not figure it all out. I, as a doctor of my own kind, personally think it all goes back to a combination between genes and environment (regarding HOW we feel about love and WHO we regard as a target) but that’s just me. I have been using myself as an experimental target recently and I took some very careful notes on all of your seven steps. I shall report on the outcome. 🙂 Much love to you!

    • I take it you haven’t been married for decades. Both my parents are pretty open about the fact that they need time apart. Which is only natural, they’ve been married for over 40 years and that’s enough time for anybody to start needing time apart.

      Perhaps for the first decade or so space isn’t that big of a deal, but over time it gets to be rather important as the gloss starts to rub off a bit and tolerance wears a bit thin. There may be some folks out there that are married for decades and don’t need space, but I’d be surprised if it was anything more than a small minority of folks that are like that.

    • I defnitely need more space than my boyfriend does. He feels bad leaving the house to go do something without me and I’m like “it’s fine, go have fun” and inside I’m like LEAVE ALREADY! But he’s an extrovert and needs people around.. I crave my alone time because I rarely get it.

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